I had to face a hard cold reality this past week. Ive have been trying to be supportive of a family member that is going nowhere because of addiction.She continues to be destructive, critical about the world, and does not take responsibility for her responsibilities. She continues to make things worse for herself. She is the product of a recovering parent and a parent that is still active. The recovering parent is in denial and feel guilty for their past addiction. I as a recovering addict tried to understand all parties, but I was told by a friend of mind that somethings dont have an explanation! I tried to be of assistance with this family member only for their addiction to cause them to steal from me. I told the parent, only for the parent to turn on me and accuse me of lying on their child The parent admits that the addict stole from me the 1st time , but not this time, because she is going to college and works everyday. the parent lashed out against me. This made me pray and made me realize that I need to trust God for him to handle this. I realize and acknowledge that I am part of the problem by allowing her in my space over and over again.and to feel sorry for the suffering addict.. It does not help her and I have now taken a firm stance with the understanding that God does not expect me to take on her responsibilities..yes we help, we love, we try guidance and support but enough is enough because when she does not listen - it becomes our fault..and it is true. We enable them to depend on our support and they can do as they please as there are no consequences for their actions. God needs to be hers support not me. Her actions and behaviors were confusing me in my own walk with the Lord and it was scary of how I wanted to just do something really bad to her. Thanks to praying friends and family that have brought me guidance, support, comfort and action on how to deal with this. Most of all it helped me deal with my guilt and build my trust. True love of someone - sometimes will hurt terribly, but ultimately I am trusting the Lord that wherever her ends/situation will be - it is between her and God..and I hold on that God always works things to the better..
Posted on: Tue, 01 Apr 2014 02:42:00 +0000
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