I have been thinking about compromise. Much has been said about it. Many feel that in life we must compromise to get along. It is better to bend than to break. Others feel it is a betrayal of ones self. I think that in many circumstances compromise is a good means to an end. As long as you do not have to give up who you are or what you stand for then it can work. When you give up a part of yourself, resentment will inevitably grow and eventually turn to anger. There is a difference between compromise and acceptance, at least to me. We can accept others for who they are, allow them to be themselves and not have to give up anything except expectations. When we have to change who we are or give up something we need then we are not being true to ourselves. In relationships compromise is tricky and I dare not venture down that sticky path here. All I will say, is if you give up something you want, versus what you need, then there is no loss. Giving up what you need or changing who you are is a slow path to an end. When it comes to compromising who you are to please others you lose a part of yourself. If you are willing to accept others why should they not accept you. Often we find ourselves in situations that we know will not work but feel we need to do something to try. Knowing that something is not good for you yet wanting it badly is sometimes difficult to accept. When we give up a part of ourselves to please others we lose, we lose our self-respect, we lose our dignity, we lose our identity. In business there is a need for compromise. Yet there too if you give up who you are and what you stand for just for money, then you have sold your values. You have become a whore. I have been asked to take shorcuts in my work to save money, to get the job. I refuse. There are some thing I just will not do because it goes against what i believe. I used to live in a very Catholic area and was often asked to paint the likeness of Jesus. I wont, and not for the reasons you might think. It just goes against what I believe. There have been many other jobs I have turned down for similar reasons, some because I felt that the work was not something that was me or my stlye. I often sell my work for much less than it is worth though, and that is a compromise that too often I make. We need to be true to ourselves.
Posted on: Thu, 15 May 2014 12:17:08 +0000
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