I know Ive been introverted lately and introspective. I probably havent said the words, I need some quiet time to reflect. But thats all it is. I came across this quote and thought about how silence has been used in my family, how I learned to use it, and better ways to communicate. There are two types of relational silence - one that serves the connection, one that damages it. In the first, silence comes with the qualifier I need some quiet time to reflect, which is healthy and respectful to the connection. In the second, silence comes with no qualifier and others are left to wonder what is actually happening. In this case, silence is actually violence - a passive aggressive attempt to cause suffering, or, at the least, a negligent self-absorption that makes things worse. Given that so many of us grew up with the silent treatment, it is essential that we let others know what is happening when we go quiet. It is respectful and it keeps the love alive. Even something like Time out! can be enough to keep silence from turning into violence. ~ Jeff Brown
Posted on: Tue, 18 Nov 2014 03:06:28 +0000