I know this is not the Facebook I normally use to share stuf about abuse, but I want to share this. If you want to find more of my personal testimony and some insight on abuse, and share your story, you can go to: https://facebook/gladys.crespoortega Sharing some information I read on the dynamics of abuse by JENI MAWTER Victims of (___) abuse often appear uncertain of themselves, constantly seeking clarification that they haven’t made a mistake or misheard something. Confidence may be so low that they have trouble making simple decisions. They will not be aware that this is caused by an abusive technique called ‘gas lighting’. Ga slighting is a technique of psychological abuse used by the abuser to instil confusion and anxiety in their victim to the point where they no longer trust their own memory, perception or judgment. With gas lighting, the victim initially notices that something happens that is odd, but they don’t believe it. This moves to defense as the victim fights against the manipulation. Confusion sets in after incessant comments such as: ‘You’re too sensitive’, ‘You’re crazy’, ‘You’re imagining things’ or ‘I never said that.’ Gradually, the victim cannot trust their own perceptions and doubt themselves. This often leads to depression. Broken and unable to trust themselves, they isolate themselves further. The victim now doubts everything about themselves, their thoughts and opinions, their ideas and ideals. They become co-dependent on the abuser for their reality. Victims of abuse need validation and education about what has happened to them. They need information about abuse and its toxicity in relationships. They need education about how they have contributed to their situation through co-dependence. They need therapy to deal with symptoms. They will need support to remove themselves from their abusive relationship, and to not repeat the cycle of abuse in their next relationship. One of their greatest challenges may come from not being believed by significant others, either because these others have not seen the private face of the abuser or because they themselves are in the "abusive" thrall.
Posted on: Tue, 02 Jul 2013 22:09:36 +0000
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