I love seeing the pictures of all the kids playing sports. Sports can be so good for kids, or they can be bad for kids. People often think the only thing that can make the experience good or bad is the coach, but this is not true. The parents attitude can also make a difference. Younger kids are usually coached by people volunteering their time, it takes a lot of time and effort and is usually thankless. Most people who do it, either love the sport or love the kids and there are never enough willing to do the job, thus parents are important. The coach can teach basics, but a parent can practice with a child one on one. The coach cares about the team, the parent cares about the individual kid. Coaches kids often are held to a higher standard and have to share their parents time and attention. Parents do not realize that how they talk to coaches has a huge effect on kids. If a parent is always demanding their child start the child feels like the parent has no faith in them. Obviously if your own parent feels you are not good enough to secure your place on the team based on your own merits, you must really stink. Parents yelling at coaches or refs teach children that rules dont apply to them and set them up to fail in a team sport where teamwork is more important than being a shining star. The child looses respect for the coach and the coach cannot be effective because the parent has undermined the coach. The lessons the child learns from this early lesson can continue to harm them in future sports, school and even the working world. The next time you want to yell at a coach, think about whether bullying the. Oath into starting your child is worth the lessons that you will teach them. If they dont start they learn to work harder, they learn teamwork, sportsmanship and yes, that the world is not fair. Which is a truth every child must eventually learn. I am not saying to let a coach abuse your child, but look at the situation carefully and let your emotions calm down and then talk to the coach not in front of the child. Maybe ask what skills your child could be working on (yes, even super stars need to work on something) ask how you can help. If you think you can do it better, volunteer. It may change your perspective.
Posted on: Sun, 21 Sep 2014 02:14:38 +0000
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