I often see many posts here about how parents are heartbroken because CAS apprehended your children .. Figured Id share my story .. I was IN foster care, . The society thinks that these poor children are going to be better off living with strangers. Truth is, they wont be.. .. Although the babies have everything necessary to survive, these foster parents dont give these children what they need most.. LOVE.. Iv seen it firsthand. .. I went through the pain of packing my things and moving into different peoples homes. Does that seem like an ideal life? Stuffing your belongings in a garbage bag and getting dropped off at a strangers door.. The only thing i could think was that nobody loves me. And thats a terrible thing for any child to think :( .. After being in it for 3 n a half years i ended up getting pregnant at 14.. Delivered her at 15. .. She was born 30 weeks gestation.. She was very sick in a special NICU.. She needed a breathing tube, feeding tube, IVS, heart monitor. She had Sleep apnea, jaundice .. She was in terrible condition.. Like that wasnt hard enough to deal with, They apprehended my baby a couple weeks later ...After given this information that my child would be apprehended, the worker looked at me with a smirk and said So, how are you feeling? ,,, Felt like a slap in the face. It was heartbreaking not being able to take my baby home.. especially because of something so foolish. ... Well long story short I signed myself out of the system at 16. .. I struggled for a long time, but it was the only way to get them out of my life.. I was young IN the system.. Now my daughter is going to be 3 in March .. Healthy and happy.. I made a choice I knew would benefit her..It was either I stay in the system and work my ass off to keep her.. ( Cause they could have placed her in the same home with me, .) .. Or give her away. Well i didnt want her to grow up seeing what i did. And i didnt want to give her away either. So, i signed an agreement to place her with my mother. I am so grateful I was able to stay in her life.. Some people think that what I did was selfish. But i KNOW what i did was selfless.. This way I was able to give her the biggest gift a mother could give their children.. happiness. Do you think its easy giving your child away? I was heartbroken... But atleast I was able to see her first steps, hear her first words.. And even though I was very fortunate in the end.. .. I know how terrible it feels having to go to CAS, them watching you on camera like your some sort of monster. Its the worst thing I ever went through. My point is that even though your hearts are breaking you have to find strength for your children. I know it feels like you just wanna give up sometimes. It feels like a losing battle I know .. Especially when you are a good parent that loves your children deeply.. But take it from a former kid in care .. Your children need you. And you need your children. Dont step down, fight. I may not be the best mother , And i may have been lucky to keep my baby... But if it were to go down any other way, Theres not a doubt in my mind I wouldve fought them with my last ounce of strength. I know it. God Bless all of you.. And I hope you ALL get your children back. They are best off in the arms of their mother...
Posted on: Fri, 16 Jan 2015 20:10:03 +0000
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