I read an article, it was about work relationships, but I think it goes toward ALL relationships. 1. Acknowledge the good things, that way when you need to raise what’s wrong, which is important for growth and results, there’s a fairer context. 2. People may push buttons, but our moods are our responsibility. Lashing out releases pressure short term, but the long-term costs are high. Go for a walk, keep a journal, join a gym. 3. When someone disappoints you tell them what they did and why. We can fix things we know about. Some people like to sort things out on the spot, others prefer to first get perspective. The important thing if you decide let it go through to the keeper is that you really do and are not shoving it aside because it’s hard to deal with. Your anger will fester. 4. Walk your talk. If there’s a disconnection between what you say and do then change one of them. Some inconsistency is human, but a glaring gap diminishes credibility. 5. Value everyone’s contribution. You don’t have to pretend they’re all equal. The typesetter may have done a brilliant rush job on the submission but that’s not the same as the strategic insights that distinguish you from competitors. Don’t big note yourself either. 6. Listen. 7. Make suggestions that improve the work and if it’s good enough already, how about a compliment rather than tinkering. 8. Ask for what you want. Don’t assume you will always get it and know how to deal with that. If you find directness hard then work through the issues in writing at length to get clarity. 9. Value what you have. Write down 10 things before you go to bed that you’re grateful for. Gratitude changes your mindset, teaches your brain to look for the good in the world and increases wellbeing.
Posted on: Thu, 27 Mar 2014 22:39:11 +0000
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