I spoke with my friend who is afraid of a relationship. It seems each time she finds a partner, someone more ideal and perfect comes to the picture. And this is distraction. This may lead her to go after the recent one who brings more happiness. But like the conversation went: in life discipline is vital. The mind is a nation of its own. It is always wanting something. But what we do as humans is to tame it so we dont live in chaos. Restrain doesnt mean cowardice. Yes. It is possible for a married man or woman to fall deeply in genuine love with someone outside the marriage. But the vow and commitment to the partner reminds him that restraint is vital. You wont stop finding someone who finds you attractive until you die. But then you cant keep flying around too. It is necessary that you stay happy. But how do you stay happy? That is what I dont know. I havent figured it out. If I knew I would be super happy. I would turn back the hands of time, run to my many ex and maybe enjoy life eternally. But lets assume I have an answer. Lets say you take the little light / strength of the fellow and put it under a magnifying glass and allow it saturate your mind space so much that you can manage it. Someone said: the average Nigerian is a manager. Yes. People paint their lives so much that you envy them for perfection. All may not be perfect with them but someone may have been a professional with her painting brush so well that you cant find a trace of anything wrong. Men, like women, are mortals, with unending weaknesses. Those who have stayed more in relationship have forgiveness and tolerance to appreciate. It isnt absent when you leave the relationship. Sometimes love leads you away or so I think. But then we must be careful. Because when you keep leaving one affair to the other you become a psycho - you have the images of many people in your head. They sometimes sing to you and unsettle your mind. It is the beginning of everything wrong. Someone said: a man who seems to be offended by everybody must be offensive, perhaps. How come he cant find anything good in anyone but himself? Maybe he is a misanthrope. When you make a choice with someone, there would be the good and bad times. In short, recent survey has it that we have three phases. The good, the bad and the horribly and unimaginably sad. One day I woke up and discovered I had a half-sister. Imagine that! If you asked my mum if she is perfect and super happy in marriage, she may say no. If you asked if she loves my dad as crazy as the days when she would sneak to his house, defile parental rules, reject many suitors, etc, she may say no. What is keeping her may be gross tolerance for the man, herself, who isnt getting younger and her beautiful children. Lifes decisions are conditional. You consider somethings and make your decisions. But you must live with the outcome. That part is called the end credit and your name and those of the people who influenced your decisions would roll unending. (c) Bura-Bari Nwilo Yvonne Onyinye, Fadaka Ava Iyineda, Ikhide R. Ikheloa, Leyii Kwanee, Nkiru Nwobodo, Abdul Kabir, Nkiru. Njoku, Naomi Lucas, Aijay Pamela Opoko, Diepriye Diri, Comfort Audu, Diki Testimony Diri, Dum Syl Aminikpo, Ryan Gibson, Ifunanya Adannaya Anih,
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 10:03:32 +0000
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