I thought I would share with you a good turn of events in my life. When my late husband passed away 18 years ago, his two older brothers also disappeared from my life. Although I was disappointed that my sons were not going to have ongoing contact with their paternal uncles, I wasn’t angry. I believe it was all about them and their inability to deal with their grief. In fact, the overriding emotion I felt for them was pity over this. Recently, my older son became engaged. The girl’s parents are having an engagement party on the east coast (where the brothers live). I found one brother on LinkedIn and wrote him a note telling him of the event and asked him to respond to me if he was interested in reconnecting. In less than hour, he wrote back asking for my email address. I have since corresponded with his wife, who unfortunately just got diagnosed with virulent cancer. I’m sure she is reflecting on her life and the decisions she has made over the years. I have known these people since I’m 15 years old (and that’s a very long time!!). As with old friends, we just picked up where we left off and caught each other up on our lives over these past 18 years. I think they wanted to connect earlier but didn’t know how or were afraid that I would reject them after so many years. Anger, resentment, and even disappointment are such useless emotions and I don’t have the time or energy in my life to harbor them. I’m willing to forget about the past and reconnect in the present. So, if some of you have been rejected by your spouse’s family, there is always hope that the situation can be remedied. Don’t let your loss close your heart up to seeing the world through the eyes of love. ©Ellen Gerst Also join me on: Words of Comfort To Pave Your Journey of Loss and Love After Loss: Writing The Rest of Your Story
Posted on: Wed, 07 Aug 2013 14:08:10 +0000
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