I was asked to write about honesty (people write to me and sometimes ask me to write about subjects that concern them). I want to talk about myself and honesty here. I do not believe in cheating people, stealing, disrespect, or hurting people etc. The thing I want to share is that honesty is not something you think about because it is in you. It is not something you think about and say, Should I be honest here? Normally you just be honest, it doesnt need thinking about because it is you. An example is that once I was in a local supermarket called Countdown and I was waiting to be served and I found a big fat wallet on a shelf. Obviously someone had put it down while dealing with a child or doing something else then walked off. Without even looking in the wallet or thinking of all the cash in it I simply gave it to the lady at the till when I was being served. Many years ago a woman relation found a wallet, she promptly emptied out all the money and put it in her purse, and then went into the bank nearby and handed the wallet in as an honest person, they thanked her for her honesty and she walked off with around $300 in her purse. I was a child when I witnessed this and I argued with her and was told to shut up and stop complaining. I dont believe in finders keepers, I believe in find it then find a way to return it. I have been finding wallets, credit cards, and cell phones etc and I return them to the Police or find the owner and return it to them. I only look in the wallet for the owners details and if money is found I know that it must be returned. It is empathy, I always think that it could be me that has had my wallet stolen, so I must put the owner out of their panic and grief and get it back to them as soon as possible. And when I give it back I never tell them my name, I dont want rewards or the limelight. My rewards is the happy grateful smile on their faces. Honesty in marriage is about not lying for any reason. One of the reasons for white lies is that people are so sensitive and have an emotion imbalance and they simply want to hear lies or live in denial of the truth. Little lies turn into big lies and then big lies turn into hurt and disaster. It simply isnt worth it. Be honest, your husband or wife is your best friend, treat her or him that way. I follow my heart, and my heart knows that being dishonest is wrong. ========== Honesty (From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia) Honesty refers to a facet of moral character and connotes positive and virtuous attributes such as integrity, truthfulness, and straightforwardness, including straightforwardness of conduct, along with the absence of lying, cheating, theft, etc. Furthermore, honesty means being trustworthy, loyal, fair, and sincere. Honesty is valued in many ethnic and religious cultures. =========== I have always believed in being truthful and being honest. I avoid people that cannot be trusted because they leave me confused and then laugh and abuse me and call me simple or stupid because I dont look for their bad habits and I forgive and give them another chance. But they abuse it so I avoid them and have other friends that I can trust. The same is with family, I avoid blood relatives that cannot be trusted. It is simple survival common sense. As a child I stole a steel racing flag from a shop and honestly it haunted me for years. I was horrified that I did it even though I so desperately wanted it. I always feel so terribly guilty if I am dishonest. Some people have called me foolish for feeling guilty, and a few crafty people have seen this as a weakness and have used guilt tactics on me to use and abuse me by deliberately making me feel guilty so I would do what they wanted me to do. I feel so ashamed and wrong of I do something wrong, even by mistake. People will always take advantage of honest people. they will use and manipulate us. They can hate us because they are not as strong as us. Often they get pleasure out of seeing us cry in guilty anguish and they think that they are strong for not feeling any guilt or pain, but that isnt so, they are hardened. You will know the honest loving person because of how they act in situations. Honest people show their feelings. They go out of their way to help people and make a positive difference in peoples lives. You will know them by what they do and not by gossip and lies. For me, I want to be more and more like Jesus. I want to be good. I want to be true, loving and righteous. There are many who see my goodness and the fruit of my work as bad and evil because they cannot see the good that is right in front of them. People thought that Jesus was evil too, so remember always honest people, you are in good company when people gossip, lie and taunt you, Jesus went through it all too. To me honesty is being real and living as God intended us to live. All the best from James M Sandbrook.
Posted on: Thu, 20 Mar 2014 09:30:51 +0000