I was going to post this as a note, but for some reason, its not working. You dont have to read all this, Im just sort of fed up with the fat shaming buzz that seems to keep coming up, and the ideology that there is a correct size. Additionally, strutting your stuff at any size if perfectly fine. Im just not sure why is makes so many people uneasy. I think it’s a little retarded to make anyone feel horrible about their size. Period. I’m writing this, knowing full well that all my friends and family will look at this post and think, “Well, easy for you to say, you’ve been skinny all your life.” Oh really? Let me explain how easy being thin has been for me. People asked me if I was a boy or a girl until I was 14 years old. I was a tomboy, usually had short hair, and was exceptionally thin. Females always thought I was soooo lucky, because I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain a pound. Males immediately put me in the friend zone. Youre less female if you dont have curves...as that was my education. Most girls in their teens were at least a B cup. I could still fit in my Training Bra at 16. Tight jeans and leggings were all the rage when I was a teen too (yeah, it’s not new), and I was just like every other teen and wore them. While normal girls looked shapely and lovely in these, I looked like a stick. And...people told me as much. At 22, I was working in a restaurant and felt myself get sick after I’d eaten a plate of food. I went to the restroom, and when I returned my boss shouted at me in front of all the customers in the restaurant and accused me of being Bulimic. I had more of a squarish hip because I was thin. At 27, a wise ass at Starbucks asked me if I was a woman or a man...because he thought I was a cross-dresser. From as far back as I can remember, until my late teen, people used to see how far up my arm they could make their thumb and middle finger touch and go on and on about how SKINNY I was. I cannot begin to tell you how many people - upon meeting me - said I needed to eat some meat and potatoes or that I should have a few cheeseburgers. Just as numerous are the times that I’ve been in a restaurant, and other women have stared as I made numerous trips to a buffet. I’ve heard women say things like, “If she makes one more trip to that buffet, I’m just going to be sick.” or “She’ll probably throw it all up when she gets home! HAHAHA!” And just for the record, no…I was never able to hulahoop in a cheerio, I’ve never nearly been swept away after I flushed the toilet, and I was perfectly safe taking a bath or a shower and never nearly slipped down the drain. Some of this might be laughable to many of you. But what if I had been a kid that was overweight? How funny would it have been then? It’s just as humiliating when you’re thin. Bottom line - you dont shame people for their size - period! I am now 41 years old, and just like any other woman, I see places where I could improve. I’m five foot seven and 142 lbs. And you know what? I’m normal. More significantly - I always have been normal. Fortunately for me, I never developed an eating disorder, but did suffer from a body image issue. I compensated with hair and make-up, and a confidence that I was going to just be me. Not everybody is able to do that. Individuals who are morbidly overweight or underweight are not going to get any better or be encouraged to better themselves with Grade A jackasses shaming them for their size...no matter what size they are. One Size Does Not Fit All. Insisting that it does is just as ridiculous as shaming someone for their size. If someone is trying to lose weight? How about encouraging them. If someone is trying to gain weight, how about the same treatment!! How could anyone decide that because a variety of sizes show up at the public pool or beach, that if they’re not the ‘correct’ size they have no reason to be there? And the immediate response is to shame them? This whole thing boils down to manners and acceptance. Because of the lack of this that is ultimately NATION WIDE, we’ve got people wishing or dreaming of a normal body image and compensating for the emotional scars the wrong way. With the diversity that we make up as a nation, define normal! It takes a significant amount of bravery to try to gain or lose weight. You fail a hundred times before you succeed. Taking the reigns of your body size isn’t merely eating differently - there’s a whole other section that deals with emotional hurdles and how to get over them. No one knows what part of that journey someone is one when they see them, declare them abnormal and shame them. Additionally, what business is it of someone else to define another person? Here’s a tip, Lovelies - be you. If you want to gain weight, do your research, talk to a professional if you can, and give it a try. Same if you’re going to lose weight. DO NOT decide you’re going to change for other people. Change for you. That is all.
Posted on: Mon, 11 Aug 2014 00:53:50 +0000
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