I was struggling tonight with having the right words to assure my beautiful oldest daughter that she is perfect at every moment. She is going through typical 5th grade stuff that shakes your self confidence. Shes proud and gregarious...so I know she will be fine. But that overbearing side of me wants to create a shadow box around her heart and mind with all the AMAZING things about her...and lock it in place with tsunami level architecture. The realistic side of me wants to tell her how valuable it is to not be handed validation (about anything, but especially her appearance) on a silver platter. How these struggles will make her an even MORE beautiful and compassionate person inside and out. Another small part of me wants to tell her how much people fricking suck and commiserate. I reassured her, of course, and asked some telling questions about the source of todays frustration...and then asked HER if she was going to allow someone (who certainly didnt sound so great) to hold much weight with her. And in the end I just held her tight and told her I was sorry she had a bad moment today. And after a bit, she was fine. (and once she was fine and back to herself...I looked her in the eye and said that I had been there...and then asked her if I said the right things to her...because I dont know what the heck I am doing at times. So I need her help. She smiled and shook her head at me.) Sigh.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Nov 2014 05:12:38 +0000
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