I wasted hours, days & years trying to get approval from others so that I would feel accepted & “normal.” The problem was I did not know how to be in relationships. I was either needy and smothering or I kept people at arms length. I rejected them before they could reject me. Even when someone seemed to like me I was looking for the real reason they were nice to me. This program gave me insight into how I was sabotaging my own happiness. In my desperate need for approval and survival, I did things for other people that I did not want to do, that I did not like doing and it was usually at a price that was damaging to my self-esteem. I have learned that it is unrealistic and dangerous to allow other people to define my self-worth. Our fearless moral inventory helps us to recognize what in ourselves needs changing and what needs forgiving. In this step we also validate our good qualities so that we can began to rebuild our lives. My sponsor told me to just be me and she told me that “me” was plenty good enough. But before I could do that I had to learn just who “me” was. I did that through the 4th and 5th steps. And, I have learned that she was right Read more on todays Codependent Life blog post - codependentlife
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