I wholeheartedly encourage everyone to read this. It is beautiful. This article made me VERY happy. It goes along with other trends in funerals I have heard about... little things make a difference in the way we grieve. One other new trend I read about the last few years... is sections of wilderness In this country are now allowing natural burials... again. No box... just earth and trees...and their loved ones then having artists carving their names in the natural stones/boulders around the burial spot. What a beautiful way for naturalists to be laid to rest in a forest. My cousins husband, David ...they either bury or spread the ashes of his family up on their large family property/ranch up in Montana. The simplest things can make all the difference. My Jewish friends have a great tradition... the family and friends gather next a big hole in the earth...and they are fully present for when the men lower the casket...then they all...get in line... And one at a time... starting with the spouse and then the children... and siblings... And they each take turns... To silently shovel dirt in... throw flowers... etc. or use their hands, to physically put dirt in... They do this until they are done crying... and then the next person behind them begins. It is healing to see this through. I have always felt walking away... and leaving your loved ones in an casket in an open field to be buried by back hoes and strangers HAS never felt right to me. Little things make a huge difference. Like hugging and holding and saying goodbye... on your own terms and not on a mortuaries schedule. Little things make a difference. Like dressing my grandmother for the last time... doing her hair and her make up was the most sacred thing to me. She loved her nails polished and I made sure her hands and feat were perfect... I placed the soft slippers on her feet... She took care of me as a child. It was a privilege to give her modesty and beauty and to then lay her in her casket...as if I tucked her into bed... those private moments for the last hours I was able to be near her have left me very satisfied...in knowing she was given the respect and love and honor she deserved. I welcome a change from sterile to this more connected natural practice. I personally would love to be bathed in essential oils... clove... mint... dressed by my loved ones... and laid on a bed of paperwhite flowers in a cedar box... where they can tuck me in... to rest. I dont want strangers touching my body. We all eventually have to die... let it be as beautiful as the day we were born and washed for the first time. Beautiful sentiments.
Posted on: Sun, 24 Nov 2013 10:23:51 +0000
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