I would like to talk about enmity. Along that come the lines of hostility, conflict, etc. Im going to abstain from any biblical reference this time, but take note that I did this with His guidance in the first place. I learned it from Him in the first place. Now, lets begin. Being young gives you the advantage of having the energy to be passionately active about enmity, no matter how many enemies you choose to make. I would say its a waste of time, energy, and brainpower. Also brings in unnecessary stress, anger, and whatnot. I believe I have a right to share on how I deal with this, because this particular method has become a habit, a part of my daily life. It has done me a lot of good, and given me a lot of peace. Be it unfair treatment, hostile people, backstabbers, this same thing has been applied and I am always at peace. Firstly, I am always aware of hostilities, and I do not ignore it. But rather than brashly taking it on with brute force, I take it all in. Now, the point of taking it in is not to fuel your anger, or to use it against them in the future. Its to consider the truth in their words, and if by all rationality and logic you ultimately find yourself to be in the right, (FIND, not CONVINCE, dont lie to yourself) then just let it be. Dont even try correcting the person, (at least not just yet, when they are hot and bothered). I am no stranger to the indignant feeling that pops up right there as you swallow your pride in silence, leaving the person to be happy in their subjective view. I had that stage for a long time in my life, not anymore. You cannot just walk away, ignoring the problem either, but what you can do is remove all your pride. Neither should you tackle the hostile target directly, nor should you look the other way and be blind about it, but you should be completely in touch with reality, devoid of pride and prejudice, respect that person for their decision, acknowledge their reasons, and with that understanding, you will find peace in yourself. You will genuinely feel sorry for them, and thats that. If you cant understand the person, dont go out your way doing so, its their business. And what they think of you is their own problem, you cannot read minds, nor can you change them. Assuming their thoughts is another waste of time. Its also important not the be smug about yourself when you do this, thats the seed of pride in a whole different direction. You accomplished nothing. All that you did was save yourself some pain and distraction. Be the wind, not the brick wall. Why work on being patient, when you dont even have any negative feelings in you to fight off? If there is nothing to tolerate, there is no threshold of tolerance either. Sometimes I do lose control as I am still human, but there would only be one reason for that, I stepped in too deeply, I dabbled with the matters of others and got my own emotions involved as well. I fell to the urge to indeed, go out of my way to actively try to change something. I lost control when I didnt see results. I still do dabble, as I have my reasons for doing so, but I no longer stay to see results. Through practice and trial and error, I am now at peace everyday, neither stagnant, nor volatile. I move on everyday, I live in the present. I am in touch with reality, but not obsessed with it. I acknowledge problems and their sources, but I dont dwell on them. Go with the flow, dont block the traffic just because you see an accident at the side of the road. If you have nothing productive to do there, move on.
Posted on: Fri, 14 Nov 2014 13:37:24 +0000
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