If anyone reads my post you know Im rarely say anything serious. This is going to be one of those rare times because I see somethings people post and I feel like its needed. There are somethings in life people go through that will take them off course. The loss of a parent, sibling or spouse. A financial struggle that someone cant see the end off. Being used, hurt, or betrayed by the person who is supposed to be your significant other. These and other things can deviated a persons path and change their perception on many things. It can last for months, years and the rest of someones life, or cause it to come to and end. I myself spent years battling the grief and the reality of my mothers suicide. For almost 9 years I let it stand in the way of trusting people, relationships, friendships and family bonds. Even with counseling there were still many issues. It poisoned my trust for people and would cause my mind to rot with thoughts about things I was helpless over. It strained my friends from highschool and on up, And I let it rip apart relationships leaving a path of self destructive choices and shame. It wasnt until it pushed away someone that I can say honestly meant the world to me did I turn and look back at all I let it become and do to me and some of the closest people in my life. Looking back I can say I made a lot of mistakes that I cant point out that might keep others from doing the same. One is that progress dont mean moving forward no matter what. Progress is getting to the point where you want to be. And to get that point sometimes you have to turn around and back track to get back on the path you want your life to be on. It will be the shortest way to get to where you want to be. Next, dont hinge your happiness on other people. Once you stop to think about it, it almost seems parasitic to attach your well being on someone else and many times that causes the other person to suffer and carry a weight that isnt theirs to carry. Last is the battle of resentment and pride. I think they both go hand and hand. Resentment is a byproduct of pride. It makes you unable to forgive and let go. It can make it almost impossible to see love and peace. If you have an issue with someone or need to get something off your chest, talk with the person it involves not out of anger but out of love. And take time to be alone. You cant work or make a problem go away with keeping busy. It has to be dealt with. Its something that I should have done years before. The last thing I want to say is something that a good friend said awhile back. Repent rather than regret. Its poisonous and unproductive to live in regret. We all make mistakes that effect others. Say youre sorry, seek forgiveness, and leave it at that. Peter denied knowing Christ and repented and was forgiven, Judas gave up Christ to the authorities, regretted it and took his life. Point being, repenting bares fruit and regret only rots.
Posted on: Fri, 05 Sep 2014 21:44:28 +0000