If you have intentionally been unkind to someone today...apologize. Then expect nothing in return. Sometimes there are consequences for actions and you need to learn that so that you dont keep making the same mistakes again. I keep finding that when people are awful and then apologize...they think that this covers everything. No. It makes you feel better to have gotten it out there. But the destruction you left in your wake is still there. Be kind enough to say your piece but then leave them alone to consider your words. I think if we really thought wed never see some people again and lose a wonderful person in our life for the relief of just running our mouths off or being honest with them then maybe we wouldnt be so hateful. Maybe we think that losing them is for the best. A week or a month later we find out that this is not so. So, you think you deserve to be awful to someone? No. A thousand times no. If you have issues with someone...those are YOUR issues...not theirs. So, when you blow up and say things you should have never said in the first place...dont expect folks to just cozy right on back up to you like nothing happened. I learned this lesson the hard way a number of times. The worst was when it was family. The best was when I never saw that person again. However, my hatefulness stayed with me like a tiny cancer that I had to ask God to forgive because it was then impossible to ask the person directly involved for forgiveness. Be kind out there, people. If you need to get out of a relationship because it is toxic...then fine. But you can do this quietly or kindly (but firmly) and leave with fewer regrets or hard feelings. But if you were just mad and said a bunch of stuff that you didnt mean...at least understand that you being emotionally immature doesnt mean that the recipient of your blast owes you a dang thing. They dont. So move along and try to learn something from it. Just my thoughts on a Thursday morning. Sorry to be keeping it real at 6:36 a.m. :)
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 11:50:42 +0000