Im 63 and Im hoping my words will give comfort to people who might not understand what it was like for single mummies in the 50s to the 80s snd earlier. I did not have s baby adopted then but I knew people who did. We girls lived in terror of getting pregnant out of wedlock it was regarded almost the same way as murder, it was. If a girl was pregnant her family were often furious, ashamed and the family was regarded as tainted so other children in the family and the girl herself would be gossiped about and would find it hard to get married because of the shame and sigma. People gossiped and pointed and members of the family often felt less worthy than others and were judged as that sort of family. Keeping the baby was not an option unless a relative pretended it was theirs. I worked with single girls who were pregnant and people would not mention it or talk to or help her. Then she would go away, come back not pregnant and no one mentioned it. Its horrendous isnt it? But its how it was. The girls were often forced by their families. So if you were adopted and you think you were not loved I hope you remember what Im saying, your Mum probably had no say at all and no chance to keep you and I bet she has never ever stopped thinking about you.
Posted on: Sat, 24 Jan 2015 10:34:44 +0000
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