Im curious what my friends, believers & nonbelievers alike, think about spanking. As a parent, do you do it? As a soon-to-be-parent, do you think you should do it? Why? And why not? Were you spanked when you were a kid? I grew up being spanked, with the handle either of a broom or a duster.. my dads mom said that the handles were made up of rattan thats why it leaves a mark on my skin. My childhood besties know about it coz I always show them my latay (wheal). I grew up being really scared of making errors and of my mom, which consequently made me very timid.. I was always too shy.. I literally didnt have self-confidence, didnt know what I was good at, was even unsure if I was good at anything at all. I could never forget how it feels being punished especially at times when I believed I was unfairly accused and judged. I turned out fine, like some commenters on this post said. I was spanked and I turned out fine BUT I would have been a better person had my mom learned to talk & listen to the young me back then. Id never forget how being spanked hard made me hate my mom, and I hated the guilty feeling of hating my mom coz I knew back then that hating my parent is not normal if I am a good child.. of course I wanted so much to be a good child (to please my parents & to be spared from spanking). That guilt was so strong I dreaded the thought of having my own future kids hate me that same way so I firmly vowed to myself that when I will become a parent, I will raise my kids better than how our parents raised me and my siblings. So I did spank my kids BUT I made it sure I wont lay a hand on them without making them understand why they are being taught a lesson. Pordat, our moments like that usually lasted about an hour or more.. bcoz I talk a lot.. I talked really long, to the extent that they will stop crying coz they will have to keep yawning.. lolz 😜 Whenever I start talking, my anger automatically subsides. The key is to make them fully understand that I got angry at what they did, not at them. Note this.. I tried my best to be fair with my kids, a friend they could trust, someone they could be honest enough to admit what theyve done wrong, a mom who will be disappointed and mad and would even possibly spank them but will surely try her best to understand. They were allowed to reason out.. and still are. I always encourage them to explain what happened, how and why. And I get more mad when they dont want to talk so I force them to talk. For me, its not the spanking thats the problem, its how we handle our childrens emotion when we discipline them. Dont forget to think about what you will feel if you will be treated that way and how you would want to be handled if you were the kid who did the same mistake and youll know how to do it right on your kid. Did I do a good job? Be my judge. (: https://facebook/Upworthy/posts/915020788538780
Posted on: Sun, 21 Dec 2014 07:52:24 +0000
Trending Topics
Recently Viewed Topics
© 2015