In all seriousness, this article is meant to help you lead a happy marriage whenever you tie the knot. Marriage is not all roses and glitter as some people would like you to believe. There will be arguments, some of which will be trivial (for example, the way the dishwasher is loaded), and some of which will be serious, intense, and painful. Right now, your whole future is ahead of you. Regardless of whether or not marriage is on the horizon for you, you should know what it takes to build a happy and healthy marriage, especially with the person you believe to be your soul mate. Read on to find out why. 1)In your lifetime, you will find and meet one person who will… … Love you more than anybody you have ever known and will know. They will love you with every bit of their energy and soul. They will sacrifice, surrender, and give so much that it scares you. Someday, youll know who that is. Sometimes, people realize who it was. If you already know who that person is, do all you can to hold onto him/her (if you love him/her back, of course). Itll be worth it in the end. If you have yet to meet such a person, you will. Its just a matter of time! We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. Your future spouse wont be perfect. His little habits that you find cute now may get on your nerves in the future. She might not give up smoking like you hoped she would. He may be cheerful now, but he wont always be so cheerful 10 years into your marriage. She may eventually lose her looks. Realize that your future spouse isnt perfect. You just need to find the qualities in him/her you absolutely adore. Sometimes, thats more than enough. 2)Who, being loved, is poor? If you have someone who loves you, youre far richer than any wealthy person who isnt loved at all. Appreciate it, and realize how lucky you are every single time someone tells you ‘I love you. You know youre in love when you cant fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams. Isnt that the truth?! When reality is better than your dreams, enjoy it. Bask in it. Soak it in. Devour it. 3)Thank god for all I missed, because it led me here to this. Have you ever heard of the butterfly effect? Its a concept where the flap of a butterflys wings in Brazil can set off a tornado in Texas. Every decision you make, every opportunity you find or miss, and every little thing that happens in your life changes the outcome of your future. Remember that job opportunity you were denied? Remember that vacation you never got to take? Remember that dream you missed? Be happy you never got to experience any of those things, because if you had, you probably wouldnt have met your future spouse. 4)Whatever you are, be a good one. When you become a spouse, be a good one. Your future husband or wife deserves to be treated well. 5)Have a marriage more beautiful than your wedding. Theres a common belief that the more money you spend on your wedding, the more likely your marriage will end in divorce Whether or not its true, its always important to focus on your marriage more than your wedding. Your wedding will only last one day, while your marriage will last forever. Marriage is like fine wine. If tended properly, it just gets better with age. A happily married old couple finishes each others sentences, has a slew of inside jokes, and can go all day without uttering a word to each other and still feel loved. Strive to become one of those couples! Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction. A lasting marriage requires teamwork. You and your spouse need to work on the same goals, compromise on many things, and brave through life together. 6)If its important to her, then its important to me. Even if you dont care about your spouses favorite sports team or his/her big project at work, you should always give support. Whatever is important to your spouse should always be important to you, and vice versa. A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. Sometimes its the little things that keep a marriage fun and exciting. Be sure to spice up your marriage every now and then with surprises, spontaneous trips, or anything else that reminds you why you fell in love with your spouse. 7)If I get married, I want to be very married. Very married could mean two things: bickering spouses who shoot underhanded comments towards each other or happy spouses who know each other so well that they finish each others sentences and offer each other support whenever necessary. You decide which type of very married spouse you want to be. 8)Imagine a new stack of crisp white paper… Its just waiting for you to start writing the pages of your story. No one elses story will be like yours. So fill those pages however you wish, and sign your story with a flourish. A marriage is a new beginning, or a new stack of crisp white paper. Its up to you to create a wonderful story. 9)Beginnings are wonderful things… … Theyre free, and theyre full of possibilities. What will you do with yours?
Posted on: Tue, 26 Nov 2013 10:07:34 +0000
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