In case anybody else is dealing with this too… It’s the holidays, and I’m single and feeling lonely. It’s been about six months since the end of my most recent relationship, and I’ve been dating a lot but so far I’m still single. What I’m doing to deal with it is staying very active and productive on a number of fronts: Doing a lot of shows, teaching a lot, getting a shit-ton of exercise (playing tennis 3x/week, lifting weights 3x/week, and riding my bike every day – my bike is now my main mode of transportation), eating really really properly, continuing to go on dates, and spending more time with a few of my closest friends. I’m being more proactive about reaching out to people, including friends, family, and prospective dating partners. None of it is the same as having a romantic partner, but it all helps, and I might as well focus on what I can control, not what I can’t. On an awesome bright side, I’m really kicking ass with fitness this holiday season. I’ve actually lost five pounds in December, and I’m certain I’ve already lowered my body fat % a bit – I can just feel it. At a recent holiday party for work, there was unlimited pizza and I only ate two small thin-crust slices, plus a ton of cucumber slices. And I somehow managed to avoid the table full of chocolates and cupcakes. If you know me well, you’ll know that all of that is absolutely astounding. On the dating front, I’ll continue to date and meet women this holiday season, and not push any particular situation to become too serious too soon. If any of you are in a similar situation, feel free to reach out to me so we can communicate about it. To me, communicating about my problems with people who share similar problems is always helpful. To those of you who would say, “Just enjoy being single! Why do you need to be in a relationship?”, I say, I understand that there is great value in being single. I’ve been single for most of the past few years. It’s just that now, I’d prefer to be in a relationship. I’d prefer to be doing the work, navigating the challenges, and enjoying the fun aspects, of being in a relationship. And to those of you who would say, “Just work on yourself,” I am doing that, as explained above. And I didn’t even mention that over the past few months, my professional life has taken a huge step in a very positive direction with my new UIC job. So yeah, I’m working on myself just fine, thank you very much. And to those of you who would say, “You are over-sharing,” you might very well be right. But it’s my Facebook page and my life, and I’m saying all of this publicly so that friends who are in similar situations might reach out to me and we’ll all know that we’re not alone in feeling this way. And even if my over-sharing turns off some prospective dating partners who might be among my FB friends, thats okay, because Im just being me, and thats important to me.
Posted on: Mon, 15 Dec 2014 20:20:04 +0000