In todays culture, relationships and marriages seem to be a disposable as a diaper and change just as much and often for similar reasons. Men are not taught how to be men and women definitely are not taught how to be women. We live in a carnal and self-centered world. Additionally, men are not taught what to look for in a potential mate. Here is an excerpt I found today. What A Christian Man Should Look For Or Avoid In A Mate a. Spiritual Maturity and Christ-likeness: Is she truly serious about God? Did she just recently decide to be spiritually-minded since meeting you? Many people (both men and women) suddenly get “religious” when they discover that the person they’re attracted to is a church-going Christian. b. Is she responsible in her personal affairs? Does she meet her financial obligations if any? Is she a responsible employee? “House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers, but a prudent wife is from the Lord” (Proverbs 19:14). c. Watch out for the woman who excessively gossips, since such a woman will more than likely be a source of strife and tension with others because of her inability to keep matters private. Any man who hopes to one day serve in a pastoral function should also be wary of the woman who gossips, since she may be one of the means to discrediting his ministry among church members who need to have confidence that their private matters won’t be spread to the church-at-large. “He who goes about as a slanderer reveals secrets, therefore do not associate with a gossip” (Proverbs 20:19). d. Avoid domineering women. This kind of woman will most assuredly fight with you over leadership issues in the home. “It is better to live in a corner of a roof, than in a house shared with a contentious woman” (Proverbs 21:9; see also 25:24). Godly men should seek for the kind of qualities mentioned in both Proverbs 31:10-31 and 1 Peter 3:1-6. Along the same lines, it is probably wiser to also avoid loud or boisterous women since they are particularly inclined to provoking conflict in the marriage. e. Watch out for the woman who excessively spends money, since it will probably be a point of contention in the marriage. More than that, it reveals a materialistic spirit and the foolish gentleman who chooses to marry her will probably incur much unnecessary debt throughout his life. f. Watch out for the woman who is discourteous and disrespectful to her parents (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:1-3). This is an indicator of how she will probably treat you. g. Avoid the woman who dresses provocatively or who wears revealing clothes. It is a clear indicator that she lacks discretion, propriety, and modesty (1 Timothy 2:9-10); and has been overly influenced by worldly fashion standards. It also demonstrates that she is less than sensitive to the visual temptations that all men struggle with. h. Women who are continuously jealous or easily suspicious of your unfaithfulness (unless you deserve such suspicion) should be avoided. It indicates personal insecurity, immaturity, and lack of trust in the marriage bond. i. Avoid women who are idle or unproductive in their daily lives (Proverbs 31:10-27; Titus 2:3-5). This also applies to the woman who is continually dependent upon others to provide her purpose and meaning for her existence. In other words, lacking self-motivation, she constantly needs other people to stimulate and motivate her. If a woman proves to be lazy or idle before the marriage is consummated, it will most likely occur and continue after the wedding day. Generally speaking, they turn out to be poor homemakers and sacrifice very little for their families.
Posted on: Sun, 03 Nov 2013 20:09:38 +0000
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