(Inbox Lifeline request and question) Please pray for the restoration of my relationship with my parent and sibling. The issue is my parent is not happy in the marriage the parent is in…so the parent can not be happy or support my marriage. What should I do? (My response) First... continue to seek first the Kingdom of God and all things will be added unto you. Seek him first with prayer…submitting your request unto Him. And be quick to listen and slow to speak whenever you are around the parent who you are estranged from. The truth of the matter is if its true that your parent is not supporting your marriage because that parent’s marriage is not the greatest… that says more about the parent than the marriage the parent is unhappy in. A person who is selfish will exhibit selfishness in all aspects of a person’s life and it will manifest in situations such as not supporting your marriage… or other situations with other people. The reason the parent is unhappy in the marriage is because the parent is likely too blind to see what the real problem is. The parent’s selfishness is a major part of the problem for being in an unhappy marriage. In order for a marriage to be successful…one must die to selfishness…which means one must die to self to allow the marriage to grow and prosper. But selfishness prevents that from happening and that is not what love is. Love is a spiritual decision which is kind, selfless… it does not ENVY or boast and it holds no records of wrongs. A person who is selfish does not know what true love is… therefore you can not expect that kind of person to show you the loving support for your marriage because this person can not see beyond self. And the greatest threat to each of us is when we can not see beyond ourselves. It seems to me your parent is dealing with who the parent is… and this parent wants to be healed…but the selfishness says its another person’s fault and not the parent’s. Do not allow the influence of someone who has not been healed from the selfishness to disrupt your marriage. Keep them at a distance…but love them. Respect your parent… but do not allow your parent to influence your thinking regarding your marriage. Seek God always and ensure no wedge is allowed to come between you and your spouse. This means you must die to self. Marriage is a pathway to righteousness. If one person can die to self (selfishness)… that opens the door for Christ to come into the marriage through the person who has died to self…. And it will transform the marriage. A person who has died to self is now in a position for the marriage to be led by Christ and that is how marriage becomes the pathway to righteousness…because Christ is righteous!
Posted on: Tue, 15 Apr 2014 18:44:45 +0000
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