Insert 6 It wasnt long after that meeting before my fathers family went to my moms for lobola negotiations. My grandfather from my fathers side was a very stingy man, elokwenyani igqolo ndikxelele. He was that type ethi xa irhalela inyama iye kwa Goss(Boxer), one of the most affordable shops in Transkai, along with Buzi and others, afike ke athenge itray yamapisis (chicken tray) with two or 3 pieces and hed make sure no one even gets to taste the gravy. Wawusithy xa ucela imali yeblukhwe akuxelele uba kwaSiwisa kufunwa iinkuni(woods) so wena youd have to take iinkabi zenkomo uyotheza use ezonkuni, get the cash (mostly R300) and take it to him. Hed then ask you how much the pants cost, you tell him R50, he gives you that R50 and demand that you bring a slip futhy, really now???? On the other hand, his wife, who was actually 20 years younger than him was a former teacher. She was teaching at Tiki-tiki Junior Secondary School before they got married. You know with real Xhosa men, your wife simply cant work, it doesnt matter what your occupation as a man is, but you are the one to provide and take care of your family, even if that means eating water all day some days. Yes I did say eat water, this is to drink water when in fact you are hungry rather than thirsty, but the only thing in the house than can manage to get to your stomach through your mouth is only water. When they started dating it was what you now a Sugar-Daddy-Baby fling these days, back then my grand father was still married to his first wife who he eventually left for my dads mom. Peculiarly, kulotata they were only boys, 6 of them as on my moms side they were only girls, 2 times that. What a coincidence! When they got to my moms home, it was my father, his father and two of his brothers, we shall call them Nko and Siya. Nko was older than my father whereas Siya was yonger. My mothers sister opened the gate for them, my fathers brothers and his dead went inside the house while my father for some reason remained behind. He looked at my moms sister, lets call her Noly and said Yhini ingase bendimithise wena kunodade wenu and with that he left without her even responding to that statement. What was she to do, report him? Who would believe her anyway? It would be like a black man running to the police station crying that hes been robbed by a white man. Really, is there any policeman who would ever buy that? I wouldnt nam. So she just decided shed keep that to herself and give him her piece of mind when she gets a chance. Remember that they came to buy my mom here and if all went well theyd leave with her, yet my father was still making such comments, nxa, what a bastard! So talks took place and they were charged 13 cows, Im sure they started off ku 20 cows, but elagqolo leciko elingutata katata talked his way down to that 13. Anyway, they paid 7 and promised to pay the rest on what I can installments. But ukhe uve xa kusithiwa ilobola ayigqitywa, well utata usashota ngenkomo eziyi 4 ke nanamhlanje. When that was concluded, goodbyes were said, my mom was officially the wife now. Yes, back then you didnt need to sign anything down to be officially married, lobola qha and that was it. So my father was in the back of the van with Siya. Nko was driving and having my mom for company. Guess what was the first thing he said to my mom, Andikwazi ubucinga ntoni uvuma umithiswa yile ntwana yasendlini, bekhona abantu abangcono abafana nathi. What just happened here, my father earlier on hit on my mothers sister, and now his brother is hitting on my mother. Also, no one would believe her if she voiced that out, there way she was angry though, I swear shed have jumped off the car if it wasnt locked. Since she didnt have earphones, as she didnt have a cell for beginners anyway, she just decided to put cotton wool in her ears, looked straight on the road without saying a word and it was that silence till they reached their destination.............!
Posted on: Wed, 20 Nov 2013 04:43:55 +0000
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