It is almost one year that my mother passed away. Believe it or not, what is left is only a good memory lingering and imprinted in my mind. When she was alive, I took great care of her even without her request. Out of pride, she never asked me or other siblings to take care of her during her old age. However, out of gratitude toward her as the mother, I decided to shoulder major responsibilities in taking good care of her physically and mentally, such as making all doctor appointments, finding a full-time attendant, consulting with doctors for any aberration in her physical conditions and, most importantly, assuring her that that was someone who really cared for her, love her and never neglected her. For all those years of taking care of my mother, I never felt stressed or obliged to perform this duty as a son. Did I really love her or feel attached to her deeply? The answer is No, but what I did was to return gratitude to her as a mother who raised me, taught me, took great care of me and never caused harm to me under all circumstances. She was the one whom I could trust that she would never play games with me or cheat me. All I got from her was only good will, protection, guidance and, above all, unconditional love. Did I love my mother blindly? Absolutely not. She was just like ordinary folks whose mind are filled with greed, hatred and delusion. I applied all the Buddhist teachings in my relationship with her. As a result, her negative force could rarely affect the state of my mind and I continued to perform my duties without feeling frustrated or obliged to do good deeds. What I feel so proud as a responsible son is that she passed away in both of my hands. I was the only child in the room when she was about to pass away. I could still feel her in my palms. She passed away peacefully and consciously while I was in deep meditation. Do I feel sorry for my mothers timely death? Not at all!Indeed, the messages I like to convey in this post are as follows. First, it is our moral responsibility to take good care of our mother and father while they are still alive. Both of them raise, protect and give us unconditional love. It is something we cannot easily find in this world. Second, all what we do or plan to do to our parents should be out of love and gratitude. It should not be based on undeniable responsibility, frustration or circumstantial constraints; otherwise, you will never gain any merit for your moral acts at all. Stop being selfish and spend some time thinking of your parents and do good things to them. Can you? Last, if we really treat our parents well, it does not matter whether they are alive or passed away because all the good feelings will stay in our heart forever. We need this energy as an impetus to go on with our life.
Posted on: Tue, 12 Aug 2014 03:24:27 +0000
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