It is not easy living with an open heart in this day and age. There will be many people we meet who can hurt us and make us shut our hearts out. The most painful is when the people who we trusted and loved are the ones who hurt and betray us. As a person who has been hurt by someone I trusted and cared for before, (My husband who committed suicide) I know how difficult it is to open my heart again because there is always the fear that I will be hurt again. After the incident, I saw things differently and there were moments when the memory of the emotional hurt and pain the person caused me still bring tears to my eyes. We always think that we only learn from those who are good to us but now I know that even greater lessons can be learned from those who hurt us. After being emotionally hurt, I closed my heart to the people around me believing that by doing so I would be able to protect it from being hurt again. But I was not happy. I was always looking back at the hurtful incident and I became very miserable. My suffering had blinded me to the fact that I am a compassionate and caring person by nature and I started to realize that I was not being myself when I closed my heart. After realizing that, I decided that I want to be happy again and to be myself again. There are a few ways where one can live with an open heart again after being hurt and betrayed. • Learn to let things go. It is when we hold on to the blame, guilt and other negative feelings that close our hearts. Dont replay the details of the past hurt. Dont hold on to who was right or wrong. All this will consume a lot of our energy which will make us exhausted and miserable because we are putting our energies in the wrong place. • Learn to forgive. Many people think that forgiveness is a weakness, but I dont see it that way. We forgive so that we can have a peace of mind not because we are weak. I know we may never forget the hurt and pain, but the only way to live peacefully and to open our hearts again is to acknowledge what had happened, forgive and then let go. • Appreciate the people in my life who actually likes and loves me for whom I am and wants to be with me because I am me. • Appreciate and enjoy the present moment. • Realize that I am in control of my life and the only person who can make me happy is me. The healing process is indeed slow and I must admit that after two years I am still on the road to recovery. Every time I think of the hurtful past again, I pull myself back into the present. Slowly, I think less of it. I am much happier now and I am enjoying life again. My Prayer this morning is that God will continue to help me put these things into place in my own life.
Posted on: Mon, 29 Dec 2014 13:57:32 +0000
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