Its another Saturday and many single ladies will be thinking when will it be my turn to settle down in life. Of course GODs time is the best, but make sure your eyes are open to reality and be honest with yourself while waiting on GOD. Most women dont know the difference between a high standard and high expectation. High expectation is one of the reasons some ladies will remain a single for long. While you are waiting for a seven stars celebrity wedding, your mates are taking their partners to customary courts to do a simple wedding; embarking on their matrimonial journey of life. Remember life is a journey and not a race. There is nothing like competition in the journey of life. Never allow a one in town kind of wedding to put your life on hold. If you can afford a big wedding go ahead, but if you cant afford it, dont stress yourself. Of course how much you spend or where you do a wedding doesnt guarantee anything in marriage. Dont put your life on hold because you want a lavish wedding .Wedding and marriage is never the same. Wedding is temporary while marriage is for life. How much you spent on a wedding is not as important as how much you stay in your marriage, because wedding is just a one day celebration while marriage is an everyday celebration that lasts for life. Every wedding becomes a memory the second day. Regardless of how many people came and how much you spent on it. When all the noble and able men are no longer available, the available disables treats women with no regards. There is absolutely nothing wrong in having high standards. Every woman need it for her confidence and self esteem. Standards helps to separate mens from boys. It helps you filter the diamonds from stones. Set your own standards and stick to it. Never break a promise you made to yourself. Never allow anyone to give you less than what you are worth. If its not what you want, dont play along. Never allow anyone to put your life on hold. Love is not a favor never beg for it. Never settle down with any man who thinks hes doing you a favor by dating you,otherwise you will end up being a victim of pity. if they treat you like an option dont make them a priority in your life. Marry someone you love and not someone that age and family pressure imposed on you. It takes more than love alone to build a home, make sure you marry your friend and someone you find very attractive to you. Someone you will never be afraid or feel embarrassed to show off to the world. If you dont like a short guy,look for the tall. A good marriage is forever till the end of time and forever is a very long time to be miserable in life. You can raise your standard but make sure you are not raising your expectations too high if you really want to settle down. Be very mindful of your age when making your plans. Always remember that there is no such thing like a perfect human being. Everybody will naturally have a flaw. When the expectations are too high,no man will be good enough. When you think no man is good enough you end up waiting for long. When you are tired of waiting,you end up settling for less.The moment you decide to settle for less you get less than what you are worth. Its funny when young ladies say they want a tall,handsome,eloquent,educated,sensitive,presentable,adorable,muscular, 6 pack, flat tummy ,funny, lively, outspoken, romantic, good in bed, good kiser before settling down in life. All these qualities are nothing without love and fear of GOD. Most young women pray days and nights for the right man. But when GOD answer their prayers and give them a RIGHT man, they ignorantly push him to the LEFT. Because he doesnt qualify for all their long lists. A complete package type of men only exist in hollywood and nollywood in movies of make believe. When your standard is too much, it becomes high expectations. High expectations can send any good man away. Only those who has no intention of staying too long will play along temporarily and take the next exit after getting what they want. Be very careful of who you choose to be because that sometimes determines which type of man comes to you. Dont present yourself dirty, expecting a clean man. Every woman will meet two inevitable things in her matrimonial home at some points in life. TEMPORARY ENDURANCE AND EVERLASTING JOY. Whichever one she chooses,she keeps the other for the future. Those who cannot endure temporary pain might ends up suffering for long. Marriage is to be enjoyed but life sometimes is not a bed of roses. Every marriage will have its one challenges. Be careful where you take advice during marriage crisis. A fool will give nothing but a foolish advice. The moment you start comparing your marriage to other peoples marriage, youre half way to divorce. The fact that your sisters husband is a horrible man doesnt make your own husband a beast. Of course, every homes need the three basics things of life. Without finance any romance can be on its way south, but never makes money your only priority when choosing a man. Some women says they want security and happiness,so they will never date the poor. Marrying a rich man doesnt guarantee any happiness and security in life. No one is responsible for your security and happiness apart from you. Most women says they will rather cry painfully in a Jeep than laughing happily sitting on a bike. Perhaps those who has that mentality has never experienced true meaning of pain. Never put your life on hold because of a man. Do something with your life and dont wait on him. Compromising in a relationship is a two way traffic that both of you must come to terms that favors the two of you. If he stops you from working make sure you have access to his assets and cash. Any woman who dates or marries a man because of his money has blindly agreed to his terms and conditions. A man that wins your heart with money may never stay for long and if he accidentally stays long, he might ends up treating you like one of those things he purchased with cash. Many women are stuck in a miserable relationship because of cash. Decision making can be very difficult if you 100% relying on a man for everything in your life. Many women are divorced before their wedding day because the marriage is built on lust and greed. Stop looking for a wealthy man and start looking for a ready man because no matter how WEALTHY a man, if hes not READY, youre on a holiday. Remember theres never a vacation that lasts for life .........Hmmmm, Enough for the wise single ladies.. Wishing you happy new month.
Posted on: Sat, 01 Nov 2014 15:22:18 +0000
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