Ive been going back & forth about rather I should post this, but I also know the importance of transparency in hopes that it helps someone else. When I was in my 20s I was an angry and short-tempered young man. Often time this came out in my relationships. I think about these times in lieu of the Ray Rice situation and I sit here reading the comments said about this young man. Demeaning him and his wife, and the truth is they both are in need of strength and grace. I say this because in my immaturity and anger there were three occasions that I can recall putting my hand on a woman. Two out of three of those times were out of anger, the other self-defense. And yes, I too was a recipient of Domestic Violence. It wasnt until I sat with a counselor of my own free will (no court order), I realized that I didnt know how to communicate my anger which prompted me to act out in rage. Anger is NOT a sin, how you react to anger can be a sin. My saddest sins were done against women who I claim to care about. Now if anyone knows me, they know the man I was...is NOT the man I am today. Ive come to learn how to communicate effectively. To use my words properly and to never...EVER...put my hand on a woman. I took an unlearned behavior (as I never saw my father strike my mother) and replaced it with a learned behavior of patience, trust and communication. It wasnt an easy journey, but by Gods grace...I grew and learned to do better. Yet I cant help but to wonder, what if I had TMZ had me on tape being physical? How man people would have cast me aside and labeled me a MONSTER? We often forget where we come from, for me where GOD has brought me from and His grace has allowed me to live in and with forgiveness and love. NOW I know how to walk away. NOW I know how to communicate. NOW I know what it means to love my mother, my daughter and Theresa without harm. So this is my final thought of Ray Rice, I dont know his history...and I DO NOT CONDONE his actions...but instead of saying he will never change, calling his wife stupid for staying, etc. What if WE replaced those hurtful (abusive words) with prayer. For it is my prayer that God will get the glory out of his familys life as He shall get it out of mine. Sincerely, Maurice L. Dortch P.S. Never underestimate the power of God to change YOU! In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry -Ephesians 4:26
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 21:00:10 +0000
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