Just some random thinkings: I believe that everyone subconsciously transmits signals about themselves to everyone else, and receives signals from everyone else. These signals usually originate in tiny little things like your posture, the way you walk, the way you dress, the angle at which you hold your head, your tone of voice, and many other things all stitched together into one large vague picture. Most of the time these signals mostly say This is how I feel about myself as compared to you specifically. Most times, I think, people come to an agreement between each other, without even realizing theyve done it, and automatically fall into relationship-roles... not exactly leader/follower roles, but something like that. Sometimes people dont come to an agreement, however. Thats why sometimes you meet someone and you just dont like them and they dont like you. No matter what, you cant seem to get along. Its because at a subconscious level the two people are more or less two rams butting heads, but neither quite falling down... or, when one DOES fall down, he doesnt agree that he should have so he scampers away and sulks and calls the other guy a jerk. But in the end, were animals just like any other trying to find our place in the pecking order. Take the idea of charm for example. This is when a person is just so likeable from the moment you meet them. You want to know more about them, you want to be around them, you want to feel noticed by them, you want to support them and even follow them. I believe this is a phenomenon related to the signals we send. I think a very charming person is simply very good at broadcasting something like, I know Im superior to you, but thats okay. I like you a lot and respect you just the same (whether they actually mean it or not) while at the same time, the other person is feeling, and broadcasting, something like, That person is superior to me, and he thinks Im important, and that makes me feel really great! Charming people are the people who get elected to public office... not because theyre particularly good at the jobs that such a position entails, but because theyre good at getting people to rally behind them. Some people are actually very smart and capable, but have their signals all mixed up and cant seem to stop themselves from broadcasting Im weak and Im not good at anything and pretty much everyone is better than I am.... and in the end, they fail, because the signals are important, and people have a very hard time respecting someone who doesnt respect himself. I myself, I think I have a broken transmitter and have usually have no idea what sort of signals Im throwing out, and I think people often dont know what to make of me. I imagine I go pretty wildly back and forth between appearing down-on-myself and appearing full-of-myself depending on which way the wind is blowing. Sometimes, but rarely, I might be able to pull off charming. Anyway... now Ive lost my train of thought. Seeya.
Posted on: Wed, 10 Sep 2014 20:32:17 +0000
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