KalligrafiAt man, naar det i Sandhed skal lykkes En at føre et Menneske hen til et bestemt Sted, først og fremmest maa passe paa at finde ham der, hvor han er, og begynde der. Overskriften for Andet Afsnit, Capitel I, A, §2 i Synspunktet for min Forfatter-Virksomhed. En ligefrem Meddelelse, Rapport til Historien, C.A. Reitzels Forlag, 1859. Paragraffen fortsætter, SV3, bd. 18, s. 96: Dette er Hemmeligheden i al Hjælpekunst. Enhver, der ikke kan det, han er selv i en Indbildning, naar han mener at kunne hjælpe en Anden. For i Sandhed at kunne hjælpe en Anden, maa jeg forstaae mere end han – men dog vel først og fremmest forstaae det, han forstaaer. Naar jeg ikke gjør det, saa hjælper min Mere-Forstaaen ham slet ikke. Vil jeg alligevel gjøre min Mere-Forstaaen gjældende, saa er det, fordi jeg er forfængelig eller stolt, saa jeg i Grunden istedetfor at gavne ham egentligen vil beundres af ham. Men al sand Hjælpen begynder med en Ydmygelse; Hjælperen maa først ydmyge sig under Den, han vil hjælpe, og herved forstaae, at det at hjælpe er ikke det at herske, men det at tjene, at det at hjælpe ikke er at være den Herskesygeste men den Taalmodigste, at det at hjælpe er Villighed til indtil videre at finde sig i at have Uret, og i ikke at forstaae hvad den Anden forstaaer. English translation by Hong & Hong, The Point of view for my work as an author, Princeton University Press, 1998, chapter IA, §2, p. 45: If One Is Truly to Succeed in Leading a person to a Specific Place, One must First and Foremost Take Care to Find Him Where He Is and Begin There This is the secret in the entire art of helping. Anyone who cannot do this is himself under a delusion if he thinks he is able to help someone else. In order truly to help someone else, I must understand more than he—but certainly first and formost understand what he understands. If I do not do that, then my greater understanding does not help him at all. If I nevertheless want to assert my greater understanding, then it is because I am vain or proud, then basically instead of benefiting him I really want to be admired by him. But all true helping begins with a humbling. The helper must first humble himself under the person he wants to help and thereby understand that to to help is not to dominate but to serve, that to help is not to be the most dominating but the most patient, that to help is a willingness for the time being to put up with being in the wrong and not understanding what the other understands.
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