LADIES: SEE 9 Signs Your Man Is Lying To You 29.01.2014, 13:42 Features How to know as a Lady when your man is lying to you. A man is asked, Did you cheat on your wife? and he replies, I have been happily married for 20 years and have two kids, I love my family. This is diverting by giving an honest answer without actually answering, but is also setting up a positive frame. photo 1. KNOW THAT THERE IS NO ONE SIGN OR CLUSTER OF SIGNS TO DETECT LIES There are no clear signs a man is telling lies (or even a woman). If it were as cut and dry asdetectingsigns then no law enforcement group would ever be deceived. What you first have to do is clear your mind of all you think you know about lie detection. There are no signs, no eyes darting to one side, noscratchingof nose that indicates lies. You have to look at the bigger picture. Are his tightlycrossedarms that way because he is lying? Or is he cold? Does he usually stand like that? Have you seen him stand like that when being shouted at by his mother? You need to examine a whole scenario and not just single actions or words. 2. HE HIDES BEHIND COMMON LIE DETECTION MYTHS He also believes in lie detection myths and will try to use them. He may do things such as looking you in the eyes, showing his palms, not fidgeting or breaking his gaze. If he does this the first time then he has anticipatedyour question(which should arouse your suspicion). If he is doing it on subsequent occasions after you have asked more than once then it is meaningless because he is simply trying to make you believe his first answer. 3. HE DIVERTS WITH AN HONEST ANSWER This trick is where a man tells you an honest answer without answering your own. Have you seen your secretary today? and he replies, She didnt come to work today. Supposing that she didnt then it is an honest answer, but he never actually answered your question. This is very suspicious because if the facts were on his side he would have said, No, she didnt come to work today (see the subtle difference?). 4. HE GETS ANGRY WHEN YOU ASK Do not forget that weve already established there are no clear signs a man is telling lies, and he may get angry because he is tired of being asked. But, some men and women use getting angry as a defense mechanism. Getting angry at your question is a manipulative way of getting you to shut up about it, so treat it with suspicion. 5. HE SETS UP A POSITIVE FRAMING IMAGE A man is asked, Did you cheat on your wife? and he replies, I have been happily married for 20 years and have two kids, I love my family. As you read above, this is diverting by giving an honest answer without actually answering, but is also setting up a positive frame. The same is true when men say, I am a devout religious… or I have never even thought about… It is done to make you think positive things about the person. A reliance on such clever verbal tricks byyour manshould arouse your suspicion. 6. GETTING UPSET AND DIVERTING This may involve diverting and positive framing too. You start a line of questioning that makes him uncomfortable, so he diverts and gets upset with, Dont you think I have been through enough? or You are doing just what my ex wife/girlfriend used to. Getting upset is a manipulative tool and should arouse your suspicion as it is among the signs someone is lying. 7. ASK HIM OBTUSE QUESTIONS He will probably have his story set out very well, along with several back up stories that heremembersperfectly. So, ask him an obtuse question. Yeah, it was just me and Bob in a bar. So you say, Oh, what was he wearing? or Oh, I saw him the other day, has he shaved off that mustache? Obtuse questions will cause him to think on his feet and he may show discomfort, which should arouse your suspicions. Dont forget that innocent people often say they cant remember, but too many Cant remembers are suspicious. 8. THE KILLER WHY When this works, it is very gratifying for you. Lets say you suspect he was at a bar but he is not going to admit it. Do not interrogate him hard, or be aggressive or push, and at some point ask him something such as, Is there any reason why someone may have seen you at the bar? Do not mention who by name or it will make him discredit that person. Questions such as this make him assume you know something. If he is guilt free then an immediate no (or similar) will follow. If there is a little guilt then he will say something such as why, at which point you should be very suspicious (whats he hiding?). 9. THE FINAL QUESTION
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