Last-night I was in boxed by a lady who follows my page asking me about the post I made on Wednesday about Khans Rudeness.. She asked how I could act so COLD and IGNORE his tears? How could I not base his actions on his Autism? My answer to you my friend who has or not has a child with Autism is: I will NOT label my sons every action on hi autism I did the first 2 years of his diagnosis, because all his actions and sufferings where and still are because of Autism BUT in the past 2 years my son has reached GREAT milestones that fall into the category of the Norm of life.. I spent 2 years learning his language of Autism and trying to understand him to HELP him, then I spent 2 years teaching him my language and the way things work in the Norm of Life with mum, so once he started learning my language he started helping me help him and visa versa... So I then was able to help him with anxiety, meltdowns, non speech, sensory issues etc. Then he was able to help me help him and show me what helps him stop those things and block them out. He made me realize after a meltdown he didnt remember why it happened as he blocked it out..He taught me that its best he sits in the trolley when we go shopping and has his ipad to block all sensory issues he has with being in public. I then taught him how to regulate himself in public when he over stimms..with all this he now understands 40% of the norm of things so now I can tell the difference when his having an Autism moment or just a little boy normal moment and thats exactly what it was on Wednesday :) Khan now understands he can ONLY eat at the table, he now understands he HAS to wash his hands and brush his teeth, he understands now he packs up after himself, he now understands when his in trouble, he understands a few wrongs and rights, he understands that he has to say sorry or please or thank you or your welcome, he understands that he has to wait for things or asks for things or to take turns. He understands his nails needs to be cut and sop does his hair and he needs to bath these are all sensory issues he had.... These things were so hard to teach him, it was draining, repetitive, it upset him when he didnt get it, meltdowns for hours on end etc... but here we are 4 years later and his 6, what a fantastic accomplishment he has made...I refuse to focus on negativity, i turn into a positive all the time. His name is Khan and he has Autism and thats where the label stops...Thank you for your inbox and i hope I have answered your judgmental question :) Love Khans Mom.
Posted on: Fri, 21 Nov 2014 02:02:24 +0000