Last night we talked about how to create support for taking those tough or scary steps towards our dreams or goals.We discussed what worked... things like external accountability, structure, having a plan, etc. etc., but it took quite awhile for a group of intelligent, strong women to come up with the simple concept of Ask for help. When we explored it more and I asked when the last time they asked for help was - I got 9 very blank looks... I almost laughed at the quizzical looks, but it was too sad. Lots of comments about how they dont like to be beholding, or owe anyone, or be a bother. How they should give but do everything they need on their own or else they feel guilty or not good enough. Unfortunately these are not uncommon beliefs - but SO illogical and unhelpful! I asked them to remember the last time they gave something to someone that made a difference - that meant something to that other person. How they felt... what it was like for them? Everyone really liked it - felt purposeful and good about themselves and about making a contribution. So my next question was Why would you want to be so selfish? Not asking for help (or allowing others to give to us is purely and simply selfish. We may think its altruistic, or noble, or whatever... but the bottom line is when we dont accept and ask for help - we are denying other people that opportunity to contribute, to be supportive, to make a difference themselves. Not only that, but we are often more depleted from trying to do it all alone... so we cant be all of who we want to be when our cup is not overflowing. So for the love of God - be generous... ask for help! :-) This rant brought to you courtesy of a group of amazing, loving, dynamic women who are courageous enough to share their journey, growth, and expansion. What do you think.... Asking for help - yes or no?
Posted on: Fri, 14 Nov 2014 04:29:31 +0000
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