~ Life Strategies ~By Dr .Phil. ~ Life Law #8: We Teach People How to Treat Us ~ Life Law #8: We teach people how to treat us. You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you dont. This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot. If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Identify the payoffs you may be giving someone in response to any negative behavior. For example, when people are aggressive, bossy or controlling — and then get their way — you have rewarded them for unacceptable behavior. Because you are accountable, you can declare the relationship reopened for negotiation at any time you choose, and for as long as you choose. Even a pattern of relating that is 30 years old can be redefined. Before you reopen the negotiation, you must commit to do so from a position of strength and power, not fear and self-doubt. The resolve to be treated with dignity and respect must be uncompromising ~ Dr. Phil.
Posted on: Mon, 18 Aug 2014 05:31:40 +0000
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