Long post: Somehow Jordan and I landed this reputation of being some kind of perfect couple (which there is NO such thing).. For a long time, we couldn’t even argue that. We were/are complete opposites but it never ever created any relationship chaos that we couldnt work through. Today it all came crashing down around 7am. A close friend announced that she’d be leaving her husband after 27 years of marriage. 27 FREAKING years. And it was because one person left the other for someone else. Gone. I preach all the time about keeping your marriage and relationships on point whether you have children or not. Always do that one extra thing to show the person you are with that they matter.... But that all became a distant memory when I was listening to a friend discuss her feelings on her divorce. I started thinking about all of the divorces in my family, my divorce and I freaked. Convinced myself that with all of the family drama and the divorces and the messes I’ve witnessed, I wasn’t destined for that life and that I’d screw it up eventually... but this thought lasted about 5 mins!! It wasn’t until I starting thinking about the past driving into work... I would reach a point in past relationships and no longer be able to see the future with whomever I was dating, and that was my queue to escape. The trouble I had with this today, was that I couldn’t imagine my life without Jordan. Ever. I could still see it all, crystal clear. Our 50th wedding anniversary. Grandchildren. Us being old & gray. Still laughing before we go to sleep. So the fears and panic were present, but I didn’t lose sight of the future. Reality kicked my fears ass so badly this am. That never happens. No guy has ever been able to break past my fears. Jordan is the one. Always has been even with the fear that somehow snuck its way inside my head because of someone elses failed marriage. Conclusion: We’re all busy. We work. We’re tired from working. We’re stressed. We have kids. We have pets. We have a lot on our plates. We’re overwhelmed. We’re underwhelmed. But don’t let those things interfere with the TLC that you’re relationship needs. Go on dates. Show affection. Surprise your partner. Encourage them. Don’t read too deeply into EVERYTHING. Keep calm. Be patient. Be kind. Compromise. Listen. Listen. Listen. Don’t take the person you love for granted. When someone has no reason at all but because they WANT to... treat you with respect, be loyal to you, put you before them, cherish you, be faithful to you and committ to you... that is love. Todays event truly made me open my eyes a little more. Focus on the one who matters the most and most of all, believe that marriage is forever and do what you can to keep it that way!
Posted on: Mon, 01 Dec 2014 14:46:40 +0000
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