Love deeply but lightly. So many people love shallowly but heavily. Try doing the opposite. Deep love with a lightness of being is the key! Todays SNAPPY INSIGHT was my first insightful Tweet... and this is mostly referring to romantic love – the intimate love of another. How we love is something I have reflected on much in my life. I have always tended to love deeply, as I have been drawn to someone’s inner essence rather than their veneer – by which I mean, how they are trying to present themselves to the world and who they might be pretending to be. Sometimes I’ve loved someone enough to set them free and even assisted them in getting together with someone more compatible. (But, this was not always understood or appreciated at the time!) Years ago, a friend of mine once said “You fall in love easily”, as we were both talking about relationships, or lack thereof, and in response I said something along the lines of “Actually I don’t fall in love easily at all – I just only have relationships with someone I feel love for, no matter if it doesn’t last. I have to feel love when I enter into a relationship, otherwise – what’s the point?” (My friend was someone who never spoke of loving anyone they had had a relationship with at the time.) But like most people my age, I have also tried working at relationships in the past where the connection just wasn’t flowing, and I tried to force it at times as I was attached to the potential of the person, rather the reality of where they were currently at. Partly this was my natural tendency – and indeed my purpose as an empath and intuitive healer – to try to lift the other person and help them to live up to their potential. People would generally be attracted to me because of my energy and lightness of being, but then they would get scared and resist loving deeply but lightly. And when I felt like I was doing so much work to keep the essence of love alive, and the other person was resisting, a heaviness would inevitably set in – and with that heaviness I would feel emotionally drained, sad and confused. I would struggle when I was with people who were being manipulative and who weren’t being honest with me about who they are and what they really feel. I learned the hard way that romantic love can very quickly turn sour, and my truth seeking tendencies would often trigger arguments as the other party resisted receiving love and being true to themselves. But what I understand so clearly now is that those people just didn’t know themselves – they were out of touch with their feelings or too scared of them – they were fearful of being really seen. (This isn’t conjecture on my part – I recall five people in my 20s telling me “You make me feel vulnerable”, some also added “as I’m falling in love for the first time”. And I struggled to understand what was so fearful about falling in love – wasn’t it just the best thing in the world?!) So, now I understand that I could unnerve people by making them feel naked and exposed – because I would see them clearly, and love their inner essence – their soul – but not who they were pretending to be. Call me romantic, but I do believe that deep love – true love – can be sustained with a lightness of being. Love IS LIGHT afterall – love is not darkness, and loving does not need to get heavy. Heavy comes from expectations, and ultimately – heaviness is based in fear. And as we know – fear is the opposite of love. I would love to hear your thoughts! :-)
Posted on: Sun, 01 Dec 2013 02:16:11 +0000