Loving another minus the judgment- So lately since turning 40 I have fallen into asking questions like.. Crap I am 40, single, and no kids..well to be honest not sure if kids were part of my journey.. love them but having one of my own I was always uncertain about probably from fear but that is a whole other post lol !! and yes I know all the responses ... he is on his way... you need to love yourself first... you needed to grow... what is wrong with being single?... if you had someone you would wish you were single grass is always greener... dont be attached... enjoy the present moment.... I am not saying some of these things arent true. I am not crying everyday that I am not with someone. My life is rich and full but I do think it could be richer with someone. I cant help but reflect on the fact that I believe even more personal growth can occur when you are with someone. It certainly brings even more of your ummm crappola to the surface. I think even more good can be attained when you work together with someone. When I lived in Virginia I had this amazing counselor that was a social worker of course ;) She always encouraged me to meditate but I didnt really get it till the last year and a half lol..late bloomer I am.. ..we would often keep in touch by writing letters after I left VA. The one letter I have from her I have on my vision board and the one paragraph grabbed my eye as I walked by today it reads, Keep working on finding that special relationship. You certainly deserve the quality of life that comes from being with a compatible and loving mate. Developing a mature relationship requires much compassion for the other, which comes more easily , once we have learned to have it for ourselves. It wasnt till recently that I looked at some of my darkness and saw how judgmental I could be ... wow... and so so hard on myself. She was absolutely right the more I am less harsh on Abbie the more I see the good in others. Yes, boundaries still need to be made but judgment is less. And I am learning to live in the moment and not get caught up in my expectations... is he the one... no maybe this one is the one .. lol... I have met some amazing men and they all were the one at that moment in time because they have taught me so much.... it may have taken a few years for me to realize the lessons and great teachers some of them were but without a doubt the lessons always came through. So this evening I am smiling knowing I have been pretty fortunate and am not so hung up on .... when is he going to get here.. because I dont want to miss that which is right in front of me.
Posted on: Thu, 14 Aug 2014 03:35:04 +0000
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