MARRIAGE IS A LIFE CHANGING DECISION . First of all, we have to remember marriage isn’t something we should ever enter into lightly anyway. In addition to being in love, it also requires thought, preparation, and a serious commitment. The commitment piece is usually what hurts us in the end. Some couples find they werent quite ready for that level of commitment. They didnt realize the amount of sacrifice needed, and to some, the marriage (or the person) wasnt worthy enough. In my coaching, I love challenging couples on taking their own desires out of the equation. I find myself saying, pretty often as a matter of fact, “you arent in this relationship alone”, “your needs arent any more important than your partner’s” and “you are only responsible for your half of the relationship and what are you doing with it?” Even if it’s hard to hear, it is the truth. It’s frustrating to see couples use divorce as an easy out or dangle it over their partner’s head as some sort of revenge. It absolutely shouldnt be the new normal.
Posted on: Fri, 28 Nov 2014 09:58:20 +0000