MOMMY QUESTION: I grew up with a with a very young, very abusive mother. I honestly believe she is mentally ill. We never had any sort of real relationship. I moved out on my own when I was 14 and never looked back. I was lucky. God, gave me a wonderful husband and has blessed me with 3 amazing children. My mother has never been a part of my children s life for more than making an appearance at holidays and some birthday parties. When she sees them she is over the top, grandmother of the year, but as soon as she leaves its like she forgets they exist other till the next holiday. Recently, she remarried a man she has know a very, very small amount of time. Suddenly she is calling every weekend wanting one of my children. Im not comfortable at all with it. Although I believe she knows better than to lay a hand on my child, I think of the pyschological damage it could do to my children if she is only doing this to show her new husband what a wonderful grandmother she is. I think ots obvious by now I have zero trust in her. I do t think she would intentionally hurt them, just as she never intentionally hurt me. She just snaps sometimes, and she is so wrapped up in herself and her world that she doesnt even realize that she is walking on people. Another issue I have is the new husband. On first meeting he seems ok. Nice enough. But Ive only met him twice for short periods of time. I do not know him. How can I send my kids to her for a weekend if I dont trust her and do not know him? All of my family says I need to forgive her and move on, give her the chance to prove that she can be a better mother and grandmother now that she is stable and grown up. I get grief from every angle because Im so overprotective. These are my kids! I cant fathom sending them into any situation I didnt feel they were secure in!! Help!! Am I being a paranoid mother???
Posted on: Tue, 27 Jan 2015 15:08:38 +0000
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