Marriage: Some of the things to address (and settle) before the two say I do to each other... Determine to discover Gods plan or purpose for your marriage before you walk down that isle. You cannot start a building project without a plan. You might be clear about your (own) dreams and goals as individuals, however, once married the two becomes one flesh. It is easy to drift apart and work against each other when you have no common vision or purpose as a couple. 2. Settle your money matters. Before you say I do, know upfront who is responsible for what in your union, they say finances is one of the major causes of divorce. Transparency and honesty is the way to go on this one. DO NOT go ahead and marry someone when you know his/her financial inter-dependance on you would be a real challenge. If youre the financially blessed one and youre not willing to make it easy for her/him, please stay out of marriage and enjoy your financial blessing as one piece in peace. 3. Address ALL issues about children. Make a conscious decision to find what would work in raising your own children. Avoid prejudices over who had the best/worst background and make everything in your lives (past and present) work harmoniously for everyone. 4. Address your other significant relationships and social activities. Many a times newly weds engage in unpleasant controversies over other (intimate) relationships like those of siblings and parents, and that tears their marriage apart even before they begin to enjoy it. They also bicker in disagreements over friends and social activities, with one party feeling unimportant and another feeling suffocated. Folks, have a clear understanding of who you gonna BE as a married couple, who everybody else would be, and what role they would play. Couples are to set clear boundaries beforehand to protect their marriage, healthy boundaries of course. Marriage is not an isolation camp but a unique relationship of two hearts in unison who happen to have significant others in their lives. Any party with some form of fear (perceived or real) in this area should find courage to voice it out so that it can be addressed properly. 5. Lastly but not least, be willing to ACCEPT ONE ANOTHER AS IS. If youre already talking marriage it means you ARE pleased with what you have in each other. This will save you from the business of finding fault with one another after youre married. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, so parties should state upfront what they are willing and unwilling to give up so that one can make an informed decision. Praise the Lord for His Word because those who embrace Bible truth on marriage know Gods heart on this on. Gods command to husbands is to love their wives as Christ loved the church. Now Christ DIED for the church, He gave the church His very own life. He intercedes for her and He loves her UNCONDITIONALLY. I hope men get it. As for women, God commanded them to submit to their own husbands. So ladies, you dare not marry him knowing his OUTDOOR lifestyle and then cry foul later! Marriage is no photo frame that comes with a strangers photo which you would later replace with yours at home! What you see is what you get, thats if youre not blinded by love. Shalom... Thought Id share a thing or two with my lollie pops :-)
Posted on: Thu, 07 Aug 2014 15:17:02 +0000
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