Maxine Browne Is Your New Lover Wearing a Mask? This time of year makes me think about disguises. Our relationships should be transparent. Could your lover have an agenda to deceive you? At the beginning of a new relationship, everyone is on his/her best behavior. Even in the healthiest of relationships, your date will refrain from chewing with his mouth open. He will open doors for you on your first few dates even if he rarely does it after six months. But this kind of watching your Ps and Qs is not what I’m talking about here. What I am talking about is the intentionally deceptive and manipulative behavior that is characteristic of an abuser. An abuser will mirror a wildly romantic partner. He will take you on lovely dates and buy you flowers. There may be a flourish of “over the top” romance in everything he does. However, he is not doing these things to show you how special you are. He is doing these things to conquer you. An abuser would never insult you on the first date. He will tell you how ravishing you are. He will swoon over your eyes and gaze into them like a puppy. There will be no signs of the contempt with which he will later treat you. Your new lover will paint himself into the cracks of your needs and will feel like the answer to your prayers. You will have no idea that he has targeted you and that this is all a game to make you fall for him. There may be even more blatant lies, such as what he does for a living and where he lives. He may claim to travel on business extensively, when he is actually unemployed and living in a small town with his mother. The fictitious business trips allow him to hide all sorts of things about his life because he can’t invite you over to his place because he is always out of town. You won’t be meeting his family and friends either, who may let facts slip that don’t match the stories he has told you about his life. When dating someone new, take your time to get to know him or her. If you feel pressured to commit after only a few weeks of dating, slow things down and get some advice from friends and family. He may be a prince or he may be a frog. He may not be who he says he is at all. Visit Maxine Browne on her website and download the Red Flags of an Abuser free at maxinebrowne.less
Posted on: Sat, 26 Oct 2013 15:21:39 +0000
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