Miss Kissy Ive got a huge anger problem right now and need your advice. See, first off my anger right now is beyond comprehended. But, this is why. For starters I went to school to get my CNA earlier this year. I decided not only to make a career changer, but to show my kid that you can accomplish anything at any age. So, here I am working with 2 different companies trying to provide for this home. So, this is what happened to me on MOTHERS DAY out of all days. I went to work early morning and got off at 1p. I was so tired that I could barely keep my eyes open to drive home. But, in my heart I was willing and ready to spend the day with my kid. Well, I get home the house was dirty and she was no where to be found. Come to find out she went to her boyfriends house and even after I talked to her and told her how angry I was that not only did she not ask permission, she blamed it on a mis-communication. Now, shes 15 going on 16 in a few months. She did not feel like she needed to come home and go ahead and spend the day with me regardless. So, here comes 1030p and she starts knocking down the door. I left her out there for approximately 7 mins knocking. Now, in my defense I made up in my mind that Im not going to say nothing to her. But, when I saw her I went off!!! When she took the dog out I locked the door again and let her sit out here for another 5 mins. So, I opened the door and after I locked the door behind her I ran up to her a pushed her in the back of her head add if I was ready to fight! I dont remember exactly what I said, but v something along the lines of....her legs spread and her brain not functioning because apparently dick is more important blah blah blah. Then I did tell get that after today I realized that I have no daughter. Then add I walked to my room I told her, oh and btw F**K YOU! I was so pissed off I couldnt even try to speak with out going off. I still havent talked to her as of 430p on Monday. I get that some ppl are saying that I was to angry. It shouldnt of gone that far. But, no one had to go thru this. I was so entirely sick and tired of seeing posts and reading about what and how Their kids did this and that blah blah blah... What ppl dont get is that Im more angry out of hurt than anything. Im tired of being unappreciated. I work 2 jobs just to barely make it and I have a certification in nursing. Im tired of stressing over everything and the ones who DO/ARE there for me arent even family. Im just pissed off and angry. Was I wrong for how I responded to this situation as a whole? I know that telling her f**k you was to much. But, she needed to know how pissed I was. ---------------- MY RESPONSE: Im not going to say that you are wrong for how you feel or for how you responded to her. But I do know you cant talk to a child in that manner and expect them to respect you. This is just a one day incident and Im sure the root of the problem goes so much deeper than a missed Mothers day. It hurts to feel unappreciated on the one day that you should be celebrated by your seed. But you must remember that rarely do people remember what you did for them, but they always remember how you made them feel. Perhaps the way you talk to her makes her feel some sort of way about you. Leaving her outside to knock may be you striking out in anger, but those are things that are also emotionally damaging to her. I really feel like you and your daughter need to sit down, talk, get your feelings out on the table and come to an understanding. If you cant do this alone you need the help of a minister or some type of counselor. Teens are so hard to deal with sometimes. Good Luck KISSY
Posted on: Wed, 14 May 2014 20:17:49 +0000