Most of you know my eldest son Daniel left us suddenly in the early hours of Friday 8 March last year, and part of my heart was ripped out and went with him, and Ive struggled to come to terms with that. Those who have lost a child to suicide will understand that. As he didnt leave a will or next of kin, his mother & I were automatically appointed by the High Court as joint administrators of his estate, and anyone who knows his mother will know what a hassle that was always going to be. In the 22 months that has elapsed since his death my focus and attention has been on ensuring his estate was administered in a fair, honest and transparent manner. The $30,000 lawyers bill will attest to the magnitude of the process I had to ensure occurred. The lies, misleading statements and the lengths some people will go to get an advantage, no matter how small, or what degrading things they have to do to get that advantage has blown me away. Now the estate has been finalized and there are no further matters to be attended to, I can finally relax and start my grieving process, which has been denied me till now as my focus on countering all the dishonest and disrespectful actions of others has prevented that for occurring. Now its all over, I believe my son is owed an apology for the disrespectful manner in which he and his belongings were treated after his death. Those who owe him that apology will not have the integrity or class to do that, so I will.... Daniel, Im sorry you didnt call me or turn to me when you were at your lowest. Im sorry you died alone and in great emotional stress. Im sorry your mother saw fit to wait 8 hours after being told of your death before advising me. Im sorry that your mother and stepfather used that time to go to your home and seize the belongings they thought had any financial value and merely discard the rest without any thought or consultation. Im sorry your mother saw fit to make funeral arrangements to suit her without any consideration for others or consultation with me or your siblings. Im sorry your funeral was held in a place that prevented your many friends and extended family from being able to attend. I saw you dressed in your full Scottish uniform in your casket and I had the sad honour of placing the lid and sealing your casket just before your funeral service. Your mother arranged to have your body cremated several days after the funeral service, which ensured I and your siblings were not present. Im sorry your mother had your casket opened just before you were cremated and removed most of the uniform you were dressed in and sent you on your last journey in such a disrespectful and despicable manner. Im sorry that most of your uniform and belongings have been disposed of for nothing more than a financial gain. Im sorry the administration of your estate was handled in such an unprofessional and inappropriate manner. Im sorry I had to fight for 22 months to get your ashes so I can lay you to rest with your grandparents and uncle in a place you know and we can all go to and be near you. Im sorry for what ever transpired between you and your mother to cause you to type the message on your laptop just minutes before you took your life... To my mother....You Know Why. But most of all, Im sorry I was unable to do anything to prevent you from taking your life, and Im sorry you are no longer with us to share the wonderful things that are happening in your extended family.. Im not sorry that I will never have to have anything to do with your mother or stepfather ever again. From this day forward they cease to exist in my mind. I will continue to honour your memory, and to make sure you are never forgotten. Rest peacefully now Daniel...the fight is won.... Love you mate...and miss you terribly... Love Dad
Posted on: Sun, 14 Dec 2014 10:47:49 +0000
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