Much of what is judged to be defiance, misbehaviour, resistance, laziness, spite or selfishness stems from your child having unmet emotional needs and consequently not feeling good in themselves. At such times reasoning, demanding, appealing, threatening or bribing can add to their underlying frustrations and do nothing to address their unmet emotional needs, but applying a little empathy goes a long way to turning things around. Maintaining our child’s emotional health and wellbeing is essential to fostering a culture of harmony and cooperation in the family. And maintaining their emotional health depends a lot on the amount and quality of connection we can give them. Children not only thrive on connection, they struggle to cope when it breaks down. It can be a challenge to make time to give our child quality time and attention, yet when we remember to prioritize moments and activities that foster connection our child really thrives. Children tend to feel loved when we give them positive attention through listening attentively, letting them engage us with their activities and questions, and empathizing with, supporting and validating their whole range of feelings, playing together, reflecting that we value their contributions, and generally being warm, caring and affectionate. Our children can generally only cope with their feelings to the extent that their parent can cope with them. When difficult feelings are listened to, accepted and understood, they become much less difficult, it allows the child to feel normal and ok about themselves again. ~ Genevieve (click link to read full article).
Posted on: Mon, 10 Nov 2014 02:30:00 +0000
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