My son was in a good mood last night when I picked him up from basketball practice, which means he was actually talking to me. I love when hes excited, hes open, talking, laughing. He made the Varsity basketball team. Hes a freshman and there are 15 or 16 players. He looked at me- Trey and I are battling for a starting position. Next week is the Jamboree at Thompson Boling Arena. I could start my first game in high school, for the Varsity, at Thompson Boling Arena....Im soooo nervous. What do we normally say when someone reveals this kind of honesty and true feelings? oh- dont be nervous- youll do great ( you were probably thinking this in your head when you read that!) My response yeah, I dont blame you- Id be nervous too! But youve worked really hard and you always give your very best when you play ball Tyler- Youll do incredible I love that he will tell me truly how he feels! How often have you had someone tell you not to feel the way you do? It just hit me when he was talking- we do this all the time. It sends the message that theres something wrong with us for feeling this way. We dont do it with bad intentions, we do it because we think we are making the other person feel better- but were not. Step 1 to building naked relationships- acknowledge and honor how others are feeling. You dont have to agree with it, dont have to try to fix it or change it- just acknowledge it. I have 100s of books on leadership, relationships, being a good parent, friend and lover- and at the end of the day- relationships start when you get your head out of the book and your heart into the game. Today- wheres your heart? Are you nervous, happy, excited, sad? I honor you today and say I dont blame you- I understand why you feel that way- but you are giving your very best- and that is always enough naked.
Posted on: Fri, 08 Nov 2013 13:04:36 +0000
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