My tip of the day, is try to add value to the lives of everyone around you today! Selfish people blame other people for their predicament. Selfish people project negativity and extract positive energy out of people. Lets say you get fired from your job. Who are you going to blame? Is it your bosses fault you were fired, or was it possible you had poor attitude or performance? You see, ownership, States that you take ownership of your situation, of your problems, and of yourself! It means you own up to your own afflictions and sins. Often times we want to blame someone else for wanting to argue, but I have never been in an argument with just myself. Thats an interesting thought if you ponder it. It takes a minimum of two to have an argument. If each person involved in a dispute will take their own ownership of the problem, and remove the other person from the problem, its amazing how the problem tends to work its way out. Above all, remember that Blame, excuses and denial, is below the line thinking. Above the line thinking States that one will be responsible for their actions, accountable for their outcome, and owners of their destiny. Even in a dispute the most heated dispute ever, you can stop and say TIME OUT! I want to take time out to apologize for upsetting you. Clearly this argument upsets you and I didnt want to do that. Im sorry. By doing this simple thing, you have removed the other person from the problem. You have appealed to their humanity and you have offered them a safe and easy way out. Instead of having to come up with something better to say, now that person must come up with something nice to say. Usually, that person will say, Its okay, Im sorry too. Now we have dialogue and common ground. You may proceed with your conversation, and exit any disagreements. Spite and pride are the top 2 purveyors of disagreement, not the actual substance of the talk at hand. #FoodforThought
Posted on: Tue, 25 Mar 2014 13:42:19 +0000
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