Myths and misconceptions: Myth: Relationship violence is usually a one-time occurrence. If the perpetrator is remorseful, he/she probably won’t do it again. Fact: Relationship violence can easily become a pattern. The following three stage pattern shows how love, hope, and fear all help keep the cycle in motion: Stage 1: Tension Building: In this phase, one or both partners may feel that they are “walking on eggshells.” Communication may be decreased or impaired, and issues may be left unresolved. Arguments or criticism may increase. This phase may last a week , a month, or even a year. This phase becomes more frequent as the cycle of violence repeats itself. Stage 2: Violence: As tension builds, physical violence can erupt as one partner loses the desire or ability to manage his/her anger. Tension is released and the relationship may seem to improve. The violent partner may temporarily feel better after releasing his/her anger, thus reinforcing this pattern of behavior. Stage 3: Honeymoon/Seduction: In this phase, it is tempting to believe that this was a one-time occurrence, something that will never happen again. This phase is characterized by remorse on the part of the perpetrator. There is often renewed hope that the relationship will change for the better
Posted on: Tue, 05 Nov 2013 12:25:24 +0000