Napisao Ian Pearson, 23 godine, oboleo od ALS, potpuno paralizovan i na veštačkoj ventilaciji. From a letter I recently wrote... Life might have been going along quite well and suddenly all was transformed into something very uncomfortable, unfamiliar, frightening, challenging and devastating to our bodies, minds, spirits, livelihoods and families. All of that invariably brings on changes of emotions and thoughts about this new set of burdens to handle and manage. That usually means that anger or sadness or both become a prevailing presence in our lives. Those feelings can have a devastating impact upon our behavior if we don’t get them well under control. We have a responsibility, more to ourselves than to anyone else, to do all that we can to not let those negative emotions control how we act and treat other people. Buddha said, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. “ It has also been said that depression is often repressed anger. Just speaking for myself, I had worked very hard for the life I had before getting sick and I was very content with life. Because so much of that was wiped out, I had to overcome a lot of anger before I could live a meaningful life again and be a decent person again. It isn’t easy but I can assure you, there are few, if any things, more worthwhile for you to do. And from a code of ethics I wrote for the residents at the long term care facility where I live... Take responsibility for yourself and your own well-being You are the only person to define who you are and how you feel about yourself, other people and the world around you. Although we all have had setbacks and face adversity every day, we only add to our burdens if we don’t sincerely make our best efforts to do the best with what we have. How we chose to respond to the people and conditions that we face every day defines who we are. No one gets through life, much less one beset with serious life-altering illness or injury, without a lot of help and support from other people. Don’t hesitate to seek out and ask for help whenever you need it. Family, friends, spiritual leaders and advisers, social workers and medical staff can all be sources of help and support. Embrace gratitude. Be thankful for everything that you have. Don’t be bitter, angry or sad about what you don’t have or have lost On a regular basis take measure of all that you have to be thankful for and give thanks for it. Finding genuine gratitude in everyday life is a key part of successful management of life’s bigger problems and gives you a higher threshold to tolerate the little irritations, inconveniences and difficulties that come up. Taking a few minutes for yourself every day in meditation, prayer or quiet reflection is an important part of maintaining good mental health, serenity and peace of mind, that’s p-e-a-c-e. This doesn’t mean thinking about all the things that have been bothering you or that you need or want to do. Ask for help or guidance if this is a new idea to you or if you’re dealing with a particularly difficult problem or period in your life. Remember again that you’re not alone. Let go of resentment, guilt and bitterness about the past. Nothing behind you can change, only what comes with the next day presents you with opportunities and choices about how you will respond. Take the appropriate time to mourn the losses in your life but don’t dwell on them or carry them indefinitely. Forgive yourself and others for things in the past and try to avoid the conditions, thinking or behavior that brought about those events or situations.
Posted on: Mon, 24 Mar 2014 14:02:10 +0000
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