Narcissistic Personality Disorder is REAL, and often undiagnosed and misunderstood, but that does not change the fact that the narcissistic personality disorder is a serious disorder that needs to be taken seriously. Most of us understand what it means to behave narcissistically. We have a picture in our mind of a young, pretty girl who enjoys looking at herself in the mirror, wearing designer clothes, and having her nails done. While the male equivalent also wears nice clothes, workouts religiously at the local gym, (or at least claims they do) and spends more time in front of the mirror getting ready to go out than his girlfriend does. That is why there is a significant difference between healthy and unhealthy narcissism. Healthy narcissism is having a sense of your basic rights -- for example, not allowing someone to cut in front of you in line, or even feeling proud of your accomplishments and not hiding them. Unhealthy narcissism is becoming obsessed with having people think you are special, having to be center of attention at ALL costs, and will go to extremes to make sure they are noticed whether negatively or positively; and not just having a sense of your own rights, but not caring at all about the rights of others. A major characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder are when the Narcissist sees themselves as special, acting entitled, believing they should have whatever they want, regardless of the feelings of others, and how they get it. While the Narcissist is inflating themselves while putting others (family, friends, spouse, kids, etc.) down. However, for people who actually have the disorder, the narcissism is a facade, a coping mechanism to deal with underlying feelings of loneliness and defectiveness. If they are challenged or criticized, they become extremely defensive, and if they are in therapy for a totally separate issue, but their “behavior” or outlook on life, or the situation comes up, they will deny all accusations, and generally will quit counseling before successful completion because the heat was turned on, and they could not handle the “heat” the questions, the pointing out their “flaws” or “different point of view” they will be offended and say that the “therapist” is a quack, or just come up with an ailment as to have an excuse to not return to “treatment” to evaluate themselves with a therapist and even react with rage because their self-image has been deflated. Then, their shame will often come to the surface and they can feel horrible about themselves, and return to their denial of anything they do being “wrong”. Because they are the only one who is RIGHT about EVERYTHING….. l.k.
Posted on: Fri, 20 Sep 2013 23:53:03 +0000
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