Negative body image is a problem for many women and while hijab is shown to lessen this issue, no one is immune. Of course our media feeds us unrealistic standards. Not only are models 20 pounds underweight but theyre severely airbrushed. But the issue goes far deeper. Somewhere along the way we came to believe that if we were beautiful enough and skinny enough we would attain a perfect love. That love is for women with clear skin, perfect figures and good hair. Every romcom weve ever cried watching has the gorgeous lead with a perfect guy willing to scale tall buildings, stop NYC traffic and con TSA to have her. But her always less attractive best friend is alone--the adoring audience to the real adventure reserved for the gorgeous. Heres reality sisters: Stunning, exceptional beauty doesnt make you more worthy of love. It doesnt make the husband you marry treat you like a queen. In fact research shows that when looks are an important consideration in a decision to marry, the marriage is 40% *more* likely to end in divorce. Beauty is common. Not just because someone will always be more beautiful or because it will eventually fade but because it actually immediately fades with familiarity. It stops mattering very quickly. And heres another radical notion: Attaining human love actually cannot and should not be a goal at all. It is rather a fringe benefit of seeking Gods love. If you work to beautify your heart as a seeker of God, you will attract the right kind of human love for the right reasons. This beauty grows with time. It is fed with familiarity. It deepens with the scars of life. And its available to everyone.
Posted on: Wed, 15 Oct 2014 15:21:30 +0000
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